Where to Turn? Who to Believe?

 

 

So many outside opinions, forces, and events these days~our minds are swimming in them!  What to think? What to believe? What to do? What not to do? Who to believe?

Wow.

Where to turn?

The answer may surprise you as it is not the ‘typical’ approach for handling today’s issues: It is a question each of us are invited to ask that shows us where to turn.  This question leads directly to the core of our heart where all answers lie:

Do I believe God/The Source-of-All-Love dwells within me?

If the answer is ‘no’, then I guess it makes sense to look outward for the answers to life’s questions. However, by simply questioning the belief that God is only ‘out there’ vs dwelling within me always, opens the door to amazing discoveries and adventures, far beyond imagining. It’s a game changer!

What if it’s true? What if the Creator of worlds and the Grand Lover of all abides within me and is eagerly waiting to share all the wisdom, knowledge, and guidance I desire for a life filled with clarity, harmony, peace, joy, and Love….

What have I got to lose?  (After all, how’s it going so far looking ‘out there’ amid the tumult?)

Am I willing to take the leap to ask the question, what do I believe?

Am I willing to open the door to the possibility of a new answer?

Am I willing to experience a ‘game changer’?

Where to turn?  The answer lies within and it all begins with a question: What do I believe?

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Today’s leaping exercise:  This is a jumping off place for you to go within and see what’s there.  Be open as you can as openness leads to new discovery!

The beginning of this new adventure lies in asking, then listening to your answers.   A journal or some preferred writing tool is suggested so you can ‘see’ your responses.  Ask yourself this question: Do I believe God/The Source-of-All-Love dwells within me?  Set a timer for 10 minutes and begin writing.  Do not stop to think or analyze, just write.  When the time frame is complete, slowly read what you’ve written.  Ponder these questions:  Are there any recurring themes? Are there any conditions? Does any sense of self-worth arise from the writing?  What do I believe about myself?  About God/Source?  What feelings are coming forth (example:  fear, regret, hope, eagerness)? Any additional patterns or beliefs you notice?  What does my mind say?  What does my heart say? What do I believe about the question, Do I believe God/The Source of All Love dwells within me?

When you’re ready for part 2, journal these questions: What if it’s true? What if the Creator of worlds and the Grand Lover of all abides within me and is eagerly waiting to share all the wisdom, knowledge, and guidance I desire for a life filled with clarity, harmony, peace, joy, and Love. (When finished with these questions, see above for ‘Ponder these questions’ as you reflect upon your writing.

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“I now close the door of the senses; I withdraw all attention from the world. I turn within to the One, the Beautiful, and the Good; here, I dwell with the One beyond time and space; here, I live, move, and dwell in the shadow of the Almighty.  I am free from all fear, from the verdict of the world, and the appearance of things.  I now feel The Presence which is the feeling of the answered prayer, or the presence of my good.  I become that which I contemplate.  I now feel that I am what I want to be; this feeling or awareness is the action of God in me; it is the creative Power.  I give thanks for the joy of the answered prayer and I rest in the silence that “It is done.” -Joseph Murphy, ‘The Miracle Power of Your Mind’ p. 90

Take your leap, relax and enjoy the beauty you’ll discover within! – Joan Kappes

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Happy Halloween!

Enjoy being……..You!

It IS you! – Joan Kappes

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How to Pray for People in Times of Crisis (especially for those you don’t know)

Harvey, Irma, floods, fires…………………..

What does one do with these?

“I’ll pray for you”, or “you are in my prayers” is what immediately comes to mind and heart.

But, what does this mean?

How do I pray for people I do not know personally and even those I have a direct relationship with, how do I know what to pray for?

How can I know their deepest life intentions?

How do I know the desires within the depths of their soul?

I’ve pondered this for years.  The ‘logical’ answer of praying for healing or whatever I think would be best for them may not be their true heart’s desire.  So, how can I support them and pray for them while respecting their unknown intentions?

The answer was gifted to me about a year ago,  It is wonder-full, simple, and very powerful (for both the person I am praying for and me)!

The answer:  Send them Love!  .

Love is the most powerful energy in the Universe.  According to the Wise Ones throughout the ages, Love is what binds everything together and makes us whole.

The power of Love is beyond comprehension yet everyone benefits when we call upon it.  We don’t really need to know how it works, just that it works.  (Kind of like the electricity in our homes.  We don’t know how it works, but we know it works wonders when the switch is turned on.)

Why is this a powerful way to pray?  Here are 6 Life-giving reasons:

  1. I can actively support them
  2. I honor the free will of their heart/soul (and it frees me not to have to think of what to pray for)
  3. They receive the power of Love and can use it in ways that most benefit them
  4. I actively trust that God/Source and my friend are using this Love for his/her highest good
  5. I can ‘let go’, knowing they are strengthened, cared for and “Loved”
  6. I personally benefit as this life-giving power of Love first flows through me
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Today’s ‘Come to the Edge’ “leaping” exercise:  Today, we are practicing this new form of prayer, sending Love to another person.  You will be using the gift of your imagination for this prayer.  Ready to give it a try?  Find a comfortable place to sit or lie down.  Take several deep breaths.  (Let the thoughts of the day go for a few minutes.)  Continue your deep breathing.  Close your eyes and focus your attention on your heart area.  Feel it.  Be aware of it.  Now, see and feel the warmth of a beam of light entering your heart (this is the Love energy).  Enjoy it.  Feel it.  Allow it to grow.  After ‘connecting’ with it and experiencing it for a few minutes, focus on the person you’d like to pray for.  Picture them in your mind with as much detail as possible.

Next, imagine you are sending this beam of light, this Love energy – from your heart to their heart.  See it.  Allow yourself to experience it!  Say  to this person, “I am sending this Light of Love to you today because I love you and because God/Source loves you.  Use this in any way you choose for your highest good.  This is given this to you freely.  We Love You.”

Gently release the beam of light and ‘come back’ to your present room and physical awareness.  Sit for a moment, and give thanks that you have given them the best gift ever…..the gift of divine Love.

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“Beloved, let us Love one another because Love is of God….God is Love” –  1 John 4:7,8

“And above all these put on Love, which binds everything together in perfect harmony.” – Colossians 3:14

“And now these three remain: faith, hope and Love. But the greatest of these is Love.” – 1 Corinthians 13:13

“If we Love one another, God remains in us, and this Love is brought to perfection in us.” – 1 John 4: 12

“Do everything in Love.” – 1 Corinthians 16:14

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Sending Love today – Joan Kappes

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Well, I DECLARE!

Declare: (verb) Announce something clearly or loudly- to state something in a plain, open, or emphatic way

Decide: (verb) To make a choice or come to a conclusion about something

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Today, let’s discover the power of declaration and the power of decision.  Why?  Because they will quickly lead you to “The Edge” of your dreams!

Who comes to mind when you think of the word, declaration?  Of course!  The signers of the Declaration of Independence; fifty-six men who shared a vision and declared (at the risk of high treason) the Colonies’ right to be free, independent states, absolved from all allegiance to the British crown.

Another  example:  In the ‘80’s, a dear friend of mine and I were sharing dreams for our life.  You know how these discussions go – this topic, that topic, on and on for hours.  Out of the blue, she declared this life-directing statement:  “I plan on living my life with financial abundance.  I just am.  I will always have enough – and more than enough”. These were not words of defiance or lack, simply a (profound) declaration of who she decided to be and who she will become.  Was she financially abundant or an expert at the time?  Hardly.  She was a new college graduate beginning one of those paying-your-dues type jobs.   Time has shown her declaration and decision of who she ‘is’ has manifested into a life of amazing financial abundance.   She became her declaration.

Additional examples:  What makes Nelson Mandela, Pope Francis, Mother Theresa, Pancho Barnes and heroes such as Susan B. Anthony and Harriet Tubman memorable?

They declared who they are!  They said, “I AM”…….

Nelson Mandela – I am a person committed to creating full equality for all South African citizens

Mother Theresa – I am an advocate for the poorest of the poor

Pancho Barnes – I am a female pilot and will live my dream (no matter what)

Susan B. Anthony – I am an advocate for women’s rights and women’s right to vote

They decided.  They decided:

  1. Who they are
  2. What they want

WHY DOES THIS MATTER? Because declaring who you are creates the opening for guidance (from God/Source, the Universe, others and yourself), focus and direction – prerequisites for living your grand life!  It is a freedom that ‘clicks in’ and says “YES!  This is Me!”  It is the dance of your soul and your physical “you” (an experience you will want to encounter again and again).  It is a feeling of being “grounded” and “at home”. It is the feeling of “aliveness”.  And, pragmatically, when you declare who you are and what you want, focus enters your life instantaneously (an essential tool for creating the life of your dreams!)   The “hows” of life may not yet be known, but the “who” is, and this is what sets the wheels in motion for circumstances, people and events to come to you!

“Ok, but how do I begin?”  “What if I can’t think of anything?”  “What if I have many declarations?”  “What if I am not even close to the ‘me’ I want to be?”  “Do I have to tell anyone?”

Today’s “leaping” exercise:  “Come to the Edge Today!” and be Bold!  Take a chance! Begin with general statements such as “I am loveable.  I am worthy.  I am abundant.  (These are important declarations because they are the foundation for life’s unfolding events.)  It is ok if you have specific or multiple declarations.  Remember, you do not have to have it all together beforehand (the founding fathers certainly did not).  There are no inappropriate statements; you are creating You and  there is no wrong answer in that!  If you feel  uncomfortable at first, it’s all right; new “clothes” often take a bit to get used to.  You can trust that as soon as you make your announcement, this expanded version of You has begun!  (Pretty exciting, really…)

Three very important steps:

1.  Make your declaration in writing (like our 1776 elders).  Use the Proclamation below or create your own.  (Free certificates are available online).

2.  Verbalize your decision.   Read it (with feeling) to yourself in the mirror.   Reading it to a trusted friend is also very helpful.  Remember that the spoken word is very powerful, so use it to your advantage.

3.  Repeat at least 3 times each day (the more the better)!

My Declaration Day

This is the day you declare who you are and what you want!

This___________day of ____________, 20______,

I declare that I am_______________________________________________________

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I declare myself worthy to experience:______________________________________

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Signed:_______________________________________

 

You’ve taken your leap and declared who you are! Whoo! You’re on your way! –Joan Kappes

 

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Choosing Love Offers 1,440 Gifts to You – Every Day!

 

When we are aware, intend and actively choose, we have 1,440 gifts (that’s one every minute!) of opportunity for choosing to receive and give Love – every day!

 

 

 

1,440 opportunities for using free choice every day. 1,440 opportunities for choosing Love every day! That’s 1,440 gifts waiting to be received by YOU!

Let’s explore the power potential here:

1,440 minutes in a day.

7 billion people on the planet.

If each of us would/could intentionally choose to give and/or receive love every minute…………….(hang on!)…………this is 10,080,000,000,000 Love choices in ONE day! 10,080,000,000,000 gifts of Love!

Sound good but, skeptical?  Ok.  Let’s really cut the numbers to ½ of 1%.

That’s still 50,400,000,000 Love choices in a day. That’s a lot of Love!

SO many around the planet these days are actively choosing Love. The power and change it is bringing to the world is magnificent! Often not a loud, clanging cymbal, we must see with the heart to recognize it. Each choice to Love contains more energy, power and ripple effects than we could ever imagine yet its fruits, while often subtle are beautiful to observe, enjoy and experience!

This gift of freely choosing Love is a gift that is offered literally every minute of every day.  If one opportunity passes and our choice is fear, we have the invitation to regroup and freely choose again. It may feel awkward at first, yet after intentionally choosing and choosing again using our unique gifts and passions, we remember that Love is who we are and who we have always been.  It is this moment where Love flows freely from our hearts forever more.

So, let us intend and choose Love this moment, this day.  Let us be among the 7 billion who are adding ripples of Love to this amazing planet.  Let’s have fun loving the world (and ourselves) with the greatest reality ever known!

Today’s “leaping” exercise: Commit to 30 days of learning to choose Love by following these steps.

Step 1:  Discover the reality that you always have a choice to Love. How? Become familiar with the phrase, ‘I AM Choosing Love’. Plaster it everywhere-on sticky notes, reminders on your phone, your mirrors, your fridge, in your car – everywhere you go. Become so familiar with #IAMChoosingLove that it repeats in your mind over and over, just like a song that gets ‘stuck’ in your head.  Allow it to flow from your heart, into your mind.  In a very short amount of time you will begin noticing countless opportunities for choosing Love!

Step 2:  Focus:  Focus is a required tool, essential for choosing and living a life of Love.

Step 2 contains two steps:

  • Noticethe thoughts you are thinking and focused upon regarding the topic or situation at hand, then decide if those thoughts feel either ‘loving’ or ‘fearful’.
  • Actively choose either the love-filled thought or the best thought you can find that feels in the direction of a loving thought.

Step 3: Use and choose: Use the words (silently and aloud) ‘I AM Choosing Love’ then choose the loving thought or action

Examples:

  • ‘I AM Choosing Love right now’
  • ‘I have a choice in this situation and I AM Choosing Love’
  • ‘This person is driving me crazy right now, and I have a choice as to how I perceive them. In this moment, ‘I AM Choosing Love’ instead of (fear, anger, self-righteousness, judgement, etc.)
  • ‘I am not feeling very good about myself right now. I could have done this and I should have done that, but instead I AM Choosing Love.  I AM Choosing to Love Me.

The power of #IAMChoosingLove lies in intention and practice.  You are internalizing and creating a transformational habit, so frequency is essential.

#IAMChoosingLove because we always have a choice to Love –Joan Kappes

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Sculpting the Clay of Your Life – A ‘How-to’ Guide

It’s time to “mold the clay” of your life!

If you are here at “Come to the Edge Today!”, then you are ready to use 4 of the most powerful life sculpting tools available! These are important tools because if you are not the sculptor, then your life will be shaped by others, and we all know that is no fun.

 

 

The 4 most powerful life-sculpting tools:

  1. You get what you think about
  2. You get what you believe
  3. ‘Be aware’ of what you think and believe
  4. Intentionally shape your thoughts and beliefs to form the life of your dreams

This is profound, so I’ll repeat it again:  You get what you think about, you get what you believe AND you have total freedom to choose all your thoughts and beliefs.  It’s quite a gift!

These sculpting tools are simple to use and available to everyone, however some sculptors do not use any of these tools; their creation is experienced as haphazard and random. Other sculptors, due to their total commitment, become highly skilled masters creating intentional, beautiful pieces of art.

Let’s take a brief look at each tool.

The Awareness tool makes the tools of thought, belief and intentionality useable.  Without this tool, the others are beyond the sculptor’s reach and cannot be accessed.  Awareness of your thoughts and beliefs is crucial for the successful creation of your masterpiece – the life of your dreams.

Thoughts and beliefs are your sculpting tools; they shape and form the clay, which is your life. (Click here for a detailed look at how thoughts and beliefs shape your life)

Intentionally shaping your thoughts and beliefs is the 4th tool.  Intention is the driver that allows the art to progress according to the sculptor’s desires.  

Today’s “leaping” exercise:  It’s time to develop the habit of being aware of your thoughts and beliefs.

  1. Using your “intention” tool, find a small, portable notebook; carry it with you everywhere and commit to recording awareness of thought as they occur (this is very important).  Do this for 21 days.
  2. Write the following in the front of the notebook:  “Because I am the sculptor of my life, I intend to train myself to become aware of my thoughts and beliefs.  With each observation, I am becoming more aware of my thoughts and beliefs.  With this new awareness, I am free to choose which are serving me and which are not.  With this new awareness, I am thankfully creating my masterpiece – the life of my dreams.”  Read daily.
  3. Awareness training:  Intend and commit to writing a minimum of 10 thoughts and beliefs per day.  The thoughts can be about anything.  For example:  You just had a confrontation with your boss and wrote this thought:  “Feeling terrible about this meeting with my boss.  She is such an incompetent manager.  She should be fired.”  (Note: Simply write what you thought – no judgments)
  4. Next, ask yourself, “What is my belief about those thoughts or situation?”  This exercise, in time, will help you become aware of beliefs underlying your thoughts.  (a very important skill!)  Begin this section with “I believe that….”  Using the above example:  “I believe that I am right and I alone should be calling the shots on this project…  I have to be right because I believe that I need this bonus or there won’t be enough money to pay my upcoming bills.”
  5. If the underlying belief isn’t immediately apparent, that is ok.  Leave space in your notebook; ponder it and it will become clear.
  6. Every few days, read your notes.  Become aware of beliefs, patterns, or whatever is showing up for you.  Become aware!

As you continue using these tools, you will naturally become more aware of your thoughts and beliefs (the point of this exercise).   This is a learned skill – a new habit.  Become a master!

“With awareness comes choice- with choice comes freedom” – JK

You are such a beautiful sculptor –Joan Kappes

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What is Compassion?

What is Compassion?

‘Often the simplest question opens the door to amazing journeys yet unknown…’

For me, this down-to-earth question, ‘What is Compassion?’ opened a wonder land filled with depth, expansion and adventure!

Join me on this journey called Compassion……

I was seeing the word everywhere:  ‘Be compassionate’, ‘have compassion’ ‘act with compassion’, and so on.  It was as if the word itself was calling out to be heard. Finally, I began my quest in response to its invitation.  What is compassion and what does it mean to be compassionate?

I realized I grew up with a partial, though well-intentioned description of compassion.  I was raised with the idea that compassion was mostly associated with ‘the poor’ and downtrodden.  It was almost an ‘above/below’ kind of thing where I ‘had’ and they didn’t, therefore I was supposed to be compassionate and help-out somehow.

I began listening and asking people questions; I received many revealing answers similar to these:

  • Compassion is seeing life from the other person’s point of view
  • Compassion motivates people to go out of their way to help physical, spiritual or emotional hurts or pains of another*
  • I believe compassion to be recognizing essence. When we open ourselves to recognizing the true essence of someone in need, we are more likely to be led to a compassionate act*
  • Compassion is a mind that is motivated by cherishing other living beings and wishes to release them from their suffering*
  • Compassion is the ability to understand the emotional state of another person or oneself. It has the added element of having a desire to alleviate or reduce the suffering of another*
  • Synonyms: Tenderness, heart, clemency, mercy, commiseration
  • Dictionary definition: A feeling of deep sympathy accompanied by a strong desire to alleviate the suffering

These definitions increased my interest desiring me to go deeper.  What is it that causes people to want to understand and act with compassion? I decided to go deeper within, asking All-That-Is for new understanding regarding What is Compassion?  The following insights rocked my world!

Compassion:

  • Com = a prefix meaning ‘with’, ‘together’, ‘in association’
  • A quantitative dimension, such that individual’s compassion is often given a property of depth, vigor or passion – ‘With Passion’

With Passion

  • The English noun, compassion: ‘To love together with’…..*

To Love Together With

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Compassion:

To Love Together With……..Passion!

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 Yes!!!! This changes the meaning of everything!  Compassion is not just a desire to reach out to alleviate the suffering of another, it springs fromloving together with’ another!  From this loving connectedness, compassion naturally elicits understanding and action. We are loving ‘with’ not ‘to’.

More!  More! I asked for even more clarity:

  • Compassion lives and flows from the heart
  • Compassion lives and inspires in the present moment
  • Compassion is the presence that helps the person re-member Love, and in those moments we ‘love together with’
  • Compassion is seeing and loving the other for who they really are. It is loving them without their filters
  • All the masters of the planet carried compassion with them. This is compassion: Look into their heart, no matter who they are on the street or in your own family and all you see is God*

The illumination of my Compassion path continues.  With each daily news cycle comes more opportunity to go deeper into the meaning of ‘loving together with’.  With each new inspiration comes another question and ‘aha’.  What does this mean for me in everyday life?  How can I remove the cloak of fear and judgment and learn to ‘be’ compassion? It is the onion.  Layer by layer I am uncovering my path of compassion, loving together with….You.

Thank you for sharing this adventure! –  Joan Kappes

#IAMChoosingLove

 

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