2018 – The Choice is Mine!

OK, world!  This is the first week of the new year.

How will I choose to live it–

reacting through each day using all my old repetitive thoughts and actions

OR,

taking the leap and consciously choosing new, life-giving thoughts,

choosing to focus on Beauty, Love and Joy, whole heartedly

pursuing inspired action.

The choice is mine. The gift to choose is mine!

I AM choosing to create my world this year.

I am eager to experience my world, our world, shift!

Here we come, 2018! – Joan Kappes

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20 Reasons Why Gratitude is the Best Christmas Gift

 

Thankfulness –  Gratitude – Appreciation

3 words that shape lives.  We use them frequently during this Christmas/Holiday season:  “Thanks for the gift”, “I appreciate your help”, “I am grateful for your presence here tonight”.  These words and ways of “being” are exceptional tools for creating the life we intended! How do we fully experience their power and  depth?

Following are 20 reasons why and how to live each day with gratitude, thanksgiving and appreciation*:

  1. Living a thank-full life just feels good!
  2. Gratitude is the “magic pill” – when feeling bad, physically or emotionally, give thanks.  It is the path to feeling better
  3. Living in a spirit of appreciation, there is a natural expectation that good things are always coming my way
  4. Gratitude opens a pathway for receiving love
  5. Thankful living opens your heart to new solutions and new ideas
  6. Thanks giving takes you out of your mind thoughts and moves you to your “heart thoughts”
  7. Because the mind can only hold one thought at a time,  it is impossible to be grateful and feel sorry for yourself at the same time (try it!).  Therefore, gratitude is the perfect tool for getting you “unstuck” from negative/self pitying thoughts
  8. Appreciation calls forth all the senses.  For example, stopping to appreciate what you are seeing, hearing, tasting, touching, smelling and feeling allows the moment to become exceptionally “alive” and rich
  9. Gratitude slows down a busy day because you are pausing to be aware of what is before you
  10. Gratitude instantly provides a new and bigger perspective about the topic
  11. Being thank-full is fun (life is supposed to be fun, remember?)
  12. You get what you think about
  13. Living in a spirit of appreciation, you are living in the present moment.  Even if you are appreciating past or future events, the grateful moment is “now”.
  14. Because of quantum physics, it is now known that the cells of your body respond favorably to positive thoughts
  15. Appreciation opens new paths for receiving
  16. Gratitude tells the Universe you want more
  17. Thankfulness creates positive habits which shapes your behavior
  18. Gratitude grows – you can start small and expand
  19. You will enjoy yourself (and others) more
  20. But mostly, feeling grateful just feels good!

*The words gratitude, appreciation and thankfulness are used interchangeably for this conversation).

Today’s “leaping” exercise:  Prior to gathering for your Christmas/New Year celebrations, spend 15 minutes alone with the intention of thinking ONLY thoughts of gratitude for the people you will be spending time with.   Then, pause your thoughts for a few minutes and try to “feel” appreciation, “feel” gratitude.  Remember to use all of your senses.   Repeat daily and enjoy!

Grateful for you! –  Joan Kappes

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Creating ‘The Most Wonderful Time of the Year’

It’s all in the eye of the beholder, isn’t it?  What is wonderful to one person may be perceived as a disaster to another.  One person may see Christmas as something dreadful to endure and the person next to them may experience it as a season of love, peace and magic.

The beauty of it – We each create the holiday we experience by what we choose to focus upon!  Yup – when you live a “Come to the Edge Today” life, that’s all there is for determining how this holiday will turn out.  Circumstances that surround us are just circumstances.  There may be sadness, heartbreak and disappointment while in the same moment, there is also love, peace, joy and a million other gifts. All are present and it is our free choice to decide where to focus.  (Such a gift we have been given – the gift to choose!)

Today’s “leaping” exercise: 

Here is the recipe for creating “Your Most Wonderful Time of the Year”:

1.  Decide which aspects of the holiday you want and intend to experience (Examples:  I intend to see and experience joy, or I want to experience gratitude, or I intend to see and experience kindness, or participate in bringing Christmas cheer to others, etc.)

2.  Believe that opportunities to experience these aspects will frequently present themselves

3.  Intend to recognize and act upon the opportunities when they present themselves:  “Today, no matter where I am going or what I am doing, it is my intention to see and experience these aspects

4.  Expect to see evidence of these aspects.   Anticipate opportunities to experience them

5.  Be open to the unexpected

6.  Commit to creating your most wonderful holiday no matter the circumstances

7.  Relax!  Allow yourself to enjoy the creation of your Christmas and New Year!

8.  Live knowing that your life is lived moment by moment!  As you purposely live these moments based upon the aspects you have chosen to experience, they will build and grow and blossom –  not just at Christmas or New Years, but every moment of every day.

May you  choose to experience the gladness of Christmas which is hope, the spirit of Christmas which is peace and the heart of Christmas which is Love!

 

Enjoying my most wonderful time of the year – Joan Kappes

 

 

 

 

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Where to Turn? Who to Believe?

 

 

So many outside opinions, forces, and events these days~our minds are swimming in them!  What to think? What to believe? What to do? What not to do? Who to believe?

Wow.

Where to turn?

The answer may surprise you as it is not the ‘typical’ approach for handling today’s issues: It is a question each of us are invited to ask that shows us where to turn.  This question leads directly to the core of our heart where all answers lie:

Do I believe God/The Source-of-All-Love dwells within me?

If the answer is ‘no’, then I guess it makes sense to look outward for the answers to life’s questions. However, by simply questioning the belief that God is only ‘out there’ vs dwelling within me always, opens the door to amazing discoveries and adventures, far beyond imagining. It’s a game changer!

What if it’s true? What if the Creator of worlds and the Grand Lover of all abides within me and is eagerly waiting to share all the wisdom, knowledge, and guidance I desire for a life filled with clarity, harmony, peace, joy, and Love….

What have I got to lose?  (After all, how’s it going so far looking ‘out there’ amid the tumult?)

Am I willing to take the leap to ask the question, what do I believe?

Am I willing to open the door to the possibility of a new answer?

Am I willing to experience a ‘game changer’?

Where to turn?  The answer lies within and it all begins with a question: What do I believe?

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Today’s leaping exercise:  This is a jumping off place for you to go within and see what’s there.  Be open as you can as openness leads to new discovery!

The beginning of this new adventure lies in asking, then listening to your answers.   A journal or some preferred writing tool is suggested so you can ‘see’ your responses.  Ask yourself this question: Do I believe God/The Source-of-All-Love dwells within me?  Set a timer for 10 minutes and begin writing.  Do not stop to think or analyze, just write.  When the time frame is complete, slowly read what you’ve written.  Ponder these questions:  Are there any recurring themes? Are there any conditions? Does any sense of self-worth arise from the writing?  What do I believe about myself?  About God/Source?  What feelings are coming forth (example:  fear, regret, hope, eagerness)? Any additional patterns or beliefs you notice?  What does my mind say?  What does my heart say? What do I believe about the question, Do I believe God/The Source of All Love dwells within me?

When you’re ready for part 2, journal these questions: What if it’s true? What if the Creator of worlds and the Grand Lover of all abides within me and is eagerly waiting to share all the wisdom, knowledge, and guidance I desire for a life filled with clarity, harmony, peace, joy, and Love. (When finished with these questions, see above for ‘Ponder these questions’ as you reflect upon your writing.

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“I now close the door of the senses; I withdraw all attention from the world. I turn within to the One, the Beautiful, and the Good; here, I dwell with the One beyond time and space; here, I live, move, and dwell in the shadow of the Almighty.  I am free from all fear, from the verdict of the world, and the appearance of things.  I now feel The Presence which is the feeling of the answered prayer, or the presence of my good.  I become that which I contemplate.  I now feel that I am what I want to be; this feeling or awareness is the action of God in me; it is the creative Power.  I give thanks for the joy of the answered prayer and I rest in the silence that “It is done.” -Joseph Murphy, ‘The Miracle Power of Your Mind’ p. 90

Take your leap, relax and enjoy the beauty you’ll discover within! – Joan Kappes

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The Perfect Halloween Costume

Happy Halloween!

Enjoy being……..You!

It IS you! – Joan Kappes

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How to Pray for People in Times of Crisis (especially for those you don’t know)

Harvey, Irma, floods, fires…………………..

What does one do with these?

“I’ll pray for you”, or “you are in my prayers” is what immediately comes to mind and heart.

But, what does this mean?

How do I pray for people I do not know personally and even those I have a direct relationship with, how do I know what to pray for?

How can I know their deepest life intentions?

How do I know the desires within the depths of their soul?

I’ve pondered this for years.  The ‘logical’ answer of praying for healing or whatever I think would be best for them may not be their true heart’s desire.  So, how can I support them and pray for them while respecting their unknown intentions?

The answer was gifted to me about a year ago,  It is wonder-full, simple, and very powerful (for both the person I am praying for and me)!

The answer:  Send them Love!  .

Love is the most powerful energy in the Universe.  According to the Wise Ones throughout the ages, Love is what binds everything together and makes us whole.

The power of Love is beyond comprehension yet everyone benefits when we call upon it.  We don’t really need to know how it works, just that it works.  (Kind of like the electricity in our homes.  We don’t know how it works, but we know it works wonders when the switch is turned on.)

Why is this a powerful way to pray?  Here are 6 Life-giving reasons:

  1. I can actively support them
  2. I honor the free will of their heart/soul (and it frees me not to have to think of what to pray for)
  3. They receive the power of Love and can use it in ways that most benefit them
  4. I actively trust that God/Source and my friend are using this Love for his/her highest good
  5. I can ‘let go’, knowing they are strengthened, cared for and “Loved”
  6. I personally benefit as this life-giving power of Love first flows through me
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Today’s ‘Come to the Edge’ “leaping” exercise:  Today, we are practicing this new form of prayer, sending Love to another person.  You will be using the gift of your imagination for this prayer.  Ready to give it a try?  Find a comfortable place to sit or lie down.  Take several deep breaths.  (Let the thoughts of the day go for a few minutes.)  Continue your deep breathing.  Close your eyes and focus your attention on your heart area.  Feel it.  Be aware of it.  Now, see and feel the warmth of a beam of light entering your heart (this is the Love energy).  Enjoy it.  Feel it.  Allow it to grow.  After ‘connecting’ with it and experiencing it for a few minutes, focus on the person you’d like to pray for.  Picture them in your mind with as much detail as possible.

Next, imagine you are sending this beam of light, this Love energy – from your heart to their heart.  See it.  Allow yourself to experience it!  Say  to this person, “I am sending this Light of Love to you today because I love you and because God/Source loves you.  Use this in any way you choose for your highest good.  This is given this to you freely.  We Love You.”

Gently release the beam of light and ‘come back’ to your present room and physical awareness.  Sit for a moment, and give thanks that you have given them the best gift ever…..the gift of divine Love.

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“Beloved, let us Love one another because Love is of God….God is Love” –  1 John 4:7,8

“And above all these put on Love, which binds everything together in perfect harmony.” – Colossians 3:14

“And now these three remain: faith, hope and Love. But the greatest of these is Love.” – 1 Corinthians 13:13

“If we Love one another, God remains in us, and this Love is brought to perfection in us.” – 1 John 4: 12

“Do everything in Love.” – 1 Corinthians 16:14

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Sending Love today – Joan Kappes

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Well, I DECLARE!

Declare: (verb) Announce something clearly or loudly- to state something in a plain, open, or emphatic way

Decide: (verb) To make a choice or come to a conclusion about something

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Today, let’s discover the power of declaration and the power of decision.  Why?  Because they will quickly lead you to “The Edge” of your dreams!

Who comes to mind when you think of the word, declaration?  Of course!  The signers of the Declaration of Independence; fifty-six men who shared a vision and declared (at the risk of high treason) the Colonies’ right to be free, independent states, absolved from all allegiance to the British crown.

Another  example:  In the ‘80’s, a dear friend of mine and I were sharing dreams for our life.  You know how these discussions go – this topic, that topic, on and on for hours.  Out of the blue, she declared this life-directing statement:  “I plan on living my life with financial abundance.  I just am.  I will always have enough – and more than enough”. These were not words of defiance or lack, simply a (profound) declaration of who she decided to be and who she will become.  Was she financially abundant or an expert at the time?  Hardly.  She was a new college graduate beginning one of those paying-your-dues type jobs.   Time has shown her declaration and decision of who she ‘is’ has manifested into a life of amazing financial abundance.   She became her declaration.

Additional examples:  What makes Nelson Mandela, Pope Francis, Mother Theresa, Pancho Barnes and heroes such as Susan B. Anthony and Harriet Tubman memorable?

They declared who they are!  They said, “I AM”…….

Nelson Mandela – I am a person committed to creating full equality for all South African citizens

Mother Theresa – I am an advocate for the poorest of the poor

Pancho Barnes – I am a female pilot and will live my dream (no matter what)

Susan B. Anthony – I am an advocate for women’s rights and women’s right to vote

They decided.  They decided:

  1. Who they are
  2. What they want

WHY DOES THIS MATTER? Because declaring who you are creates the opening for guidance (from God/Source, the Universe, others and yourself), focus and direction – prerequisites for living your grand life!  It is a freedom that ‘clicks in’ and says “YES!  This is Me!”  It is the dance of your soul and your physical “you” (an experience you will want to encounter again and again).  It is a feeling of being “grounded” and “at home”. It is the feeling of “aliveness”.  And, pragmatically, when you declare who you are and what you want, focus enters your life instantaneously (an essential tool for creating the life of your dreams!)   The “hows” of life may not yet be known, but the “who” is, and this is what sets the wheels in motion for circumstances, people and events to come to you!

“Ok, but how do I begin?”  “What if I can’t think of anything?”  “What if I have many declarations?”  “What if I am not even close to the ‘me’ I want to be?”  “Do I have to tell anyone?”

Today’s “leaping” exercise:  “Come to the Edge Today!” and be Bold!  Take a chance! Begin with general statements such as “I am loveable.  I am worthy.  I am abundant.  (These are important declarations because they are the foundation for life’s unfolding events.)  It is ok if you have specific or multiple declarations.  Remember, you do not have to have it all together beforehand (the founding fathers certainly did not).  There are no inappropriate statements; you are creating You and  there is no wrong answer in that!  If you feel  uncomfortable at first, it’s all right; new “clothes” often take a bit to get used to.  You can trust that as soon as you make your announcement, this expanded version of You has begun!  (Pretty exciting, really…)

Three very important steps:

1.  Make your declaration in writing (like our 1776 elders).  Use the Proclamation below or create your own.  (Free certificates are available online).

2.  Verbalize your decision.   Read it (with feeling) to yourself in the mirror.   Reading it to a trusted friend is also very helpful.  Remember that the spoken word is very powerful, so use it to your advantage.

3.  Repeat at least 3 times each day (the more the better)!

My Declaration Day

This is the day you declare who you are and what you want!

This___________day of ____________, 20______,

I declare that I am_______________________________________________________

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I declare myself worthy to experience:______________________________________

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Signed:_______________________________________

 

You’ve taken your leap and declared who you are! Whoo! You’re on your way! –Joan Kappes

 

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