How To Feel Better In Just 4 Minutes

Imagine you are extremely upset about something that just happened and you are “hopping mad”!  Soon after this upsetting event, someone comes along and says, “Don’t worry, be happy!”  Your immediate reaction – you want to punch them or at least, have them leave your sight – Right? 

They’re just trying to be helpful, so why do we react to them in this way?  We want them to ‘go away’ because it is impossible for us to make the emotional leap from anger to joy or happiness.  It’s too big of a jump.

So, if we can’t jump that far, how do we become “unstuck”?  How do we move from a negative state to an improved one?

The “Come to the Edge Today” recommendation is… Take baby steps!  Baby steps are natural and doable.  Just as a baby progresses from crawling to standing to walking, we can begin at whatever emotional state we are in and take a baby step toward feeling just a little better, then another emotional step to feeling a little better from that point, and so on.  

The quickest, most effective “baby step” tool is the “Focus Wheel”.  It can be done anywhere, anytime and is guaranteed to help you feel better in about 4-10  minutes!  Once you develop the habit of using it, not only will you feel better, in time, your entire outlook will improve – really!

Watch this fabulous video below for easy step by step instructions!  Special thanks to Abraham/Hicks, creator of the Focus Wheel tool and Arvind Singh, creator of the “how to” video.


Today’s “leaping” exercise:  Make several copies of the Focus Wheel (so they are readily available when you want to achieve a better feeling state).  Practice using the Focus Wheel immediately after watching the video.  Be clear how you are feeling; from this starting point, use the Focus Wheel with the intention of improving how you are feeling.  It doesn’t matter if your starting point is anger, joy or anywhere in between; there is always room for feeling better!  Below is a scale illustrating suggested emotional baby steps (ex. moving from optimism to positive expectation.  Taken from Abraham/Hicks:  Ask and it is Given, p. 297)


  1. Joy/Knowledge/Empowerment/Freedom/Love/Appreciation
  2. Passion
  3. Enthusiasm/Eagerness/Happiness
  4. Positive Expectation/Belief
  5. Optimism
  6. Hopefulness
  7. Contentment
  8. Boredom
  9. Pessimism
  10. Frustration/Irritation/Impatience
  11. Overwhelment
  12. Disappointment
  13. Doubt
  14. Worry
  15. Blame
  16. Discouragement
  17. Anger
  18. Revenge
  19. Hatred/Rage
  20. Jealousy
  21. Insecurity/Guilt/Unworthiness
  22. Fear/Grief/Depression/Despair/Powerlessness

Baby steps are all you need for “Come to the Edge Today” living –Joan Kappes

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