#IAMChoosingLove ——— Pt 1: ‘How’ to Choose Love…Every Day

During these crazy times, we want to ‘do’ something, yet often feel powerless. Our hearts yearn for Love and compassion.

These times are inviting us to ‘be’ different. They invite us to look inward – to hear the still, small Voice that says ‘You are More.’ The I AM within each of us calls us to ‘be’ Love and to choose Love. Have you heard the invitation? Listen, for it is there.












Have you seen this hashtag lately? It’s a ‘cute’ phrase, right? Actually, it goes well beyond cuteness or trendiness.

These four simple words are life changing – world changing. They are all that is required. They are everything.


Simply, yet profoundly, #IAMChoosingLove is an invitation, a life altering awareness that no matter the situation, we always have a choice to Love. The details of these 4 power-filled words may be found here.

Today’s reflection is a pragmatic one. ‘If I am hearing that still, small Voice and I want to answer ‘Yes’! to the invitation to Love, how do I choose Love? Really…..how do I choose it?’  The answer lies in the following three intentional steps:

 Step one:  Discover the reality that you always have a choice to Love! How? Become familiar with the phrase, ‘I AM Choosing Love’. Plaster it everywhere (so you remember to think this new thought) – on sticky notes, reminders on your phone, your mirrors, your fridge, in your car….everywhere you go. Become so familiar with #IAMChoosingLove that it repeats in your mind over and over (just like a song that gets ‘stuck’ in your head!).  Allow it to flow from your heart, into your mind.  Very soon after repeatedly using this phrase, you will become aware of the myriad of opportunities to choose Love.

 Step 2:  Focus.  Focus is a powerful tool, essential for choosing and living a life of Love.

Step 2 contains two parts:

  • Notice the thoughts you are thinking and focused upon regarding the topic or situation at hand, then decide if they feel either ‘loving’ or ‘fearful’.
  • Actively choose either the love-filled thought or, if the current thought does not feel ‘freeing’ or ‘loving’, find another thought that feels more in the direction of a loving, ‘downstream-like’ thought.

Click here for more about the power of focus.

Step 3: Use and choose: Use the words (silently and aloud) ‘I AM Choosing Love’ then choose the loving thought or action


  • ‘I AM Choosing Love right now’
  • ‘I have a choice in this situation and I AM Choosing Love’
  • ‘This person is driving me crazy right now, and I have a choice as to how I perceive them. In this moment, ‘I AM Choosing Love’ instead of (fear, anger, self righteousness, judgement, etc.)
  • ‘I am not feeling very good about myself right now. I could have done this and I should have done that, but instead I AM Choosing Love.  I am choosing to Love Me.

The power of #IAMChoosingLove lies in your intention and practice.  You are internalizing and creating a transformational habit, so frequency is essential!

Today’s ‘leaping’ exercise: Learning to monitor and choose loving thoughts is absolutely a habit.  It may seem awkward at first, but if you treat your observations as if they are a ‘what-am-I-thinking-right-now’ game and a ‘what-loving-thought-could-I-choose-now’ exercise, you will soon notice (and feel) your thoughts and actions ‘morphing’ into the Loving, magnificent person you already are!  Commit for 21 days and experience your metamorphosis!


Be sure to experience Part 2: Transformational stories of six people who said ‘yes’ to the invitation to give #IAMChoosingLove a try, using the above steps.  The results are beautiful and life-changing!

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#IAMChoosingLove with you – Joan Kappes

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