Filling the Bowl of Your Life – The Choice is Yours

I have a tendency to think that when something “happens to me” especially if it is something  I view as “bad”, I need to dwell on it, or at the very least acknowledge my current state or circumstance, because if I don’t, then I am secretly saying that it’s OK and more of it will come.

What I am realizing now, is that it is all about what I am providing space for. If I think of my life as a vast bowl which I  choose to fill up in a myriad of ways, and on many subjects, this image naturally reveals what I am choosing to focus upon.  My habit has been to fill up my bowl with thoughts about my current state or circumstances…. Because after all, that is “my reality”, right?  Consequently, this (my focus) is what is taking up the space and therefore, what I experience as my reality.

What if I choose to open the space – this “bowl” of my life – to allow new possibilities, some I may not even be aware of yet?  What if I let go and trust that the Universe, who knows my heart’s true desires,  will surprise and delight me?

By choosing not to fill my bowl with my “current struggles or perceived injustices” does not mean  they are not real to me….it’s just a new (and more beneficial) decision to keep the space open for the Universe to deliver and give to me in new ways.

Creating the space IS the process of allowing.

Today’s “leaping” exercise:  So much of what we think about is actually unconscious thinking; paying attention to what you think about will change your life! Today’s exercise is an awareness exercise; it focuses on what thoughts you find yourself dwelling upon.

For the next week, commit to developing the habit of noticing what you think about and what you dwell upon.  Choose some kind of cue that, whenever you hear it, will serve as a reminder to stop and notice what thoughts have recently been running through your head.  This could be a bird singing, a blue car on the road, a word that your hear, something you see on your desk – anything that occurs frequently (once per hour or so).  When you are reminded via this cue, or consciously on your own, stop and reflect:  What thoughts have I been dwelling upon?  What have I been thinking?  What feelings did these thoughts bring up?  Have these thoughts served me or hindered me in how I want my life to manifest?  What thoughts would I prefer?

Do this for 7+ days;  Record thoughts, patterns and beliefs.  Ask the above questions.  Use this time to get really clear on what you think about and what you habitually dwell upon and why.

These conscious observations are the opening for new possibilites.  As you empty your bowl, the Universe can fill it up with what you truly desire.

Living or being on “The Edge” is about creating new space – Jan Wikman

Thanks to my twin sister, Jan Wikman for sharing this reflection with all of us! – Joan Kappes

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My Declaration of Freedom

Now is your time to be free!

Now is your time

Now is your time

Now is your time to let go

Now is your time to let go of the habits of fear, insecurity, sameness

Now is your time to let go of it all and release whatever is holding you back

Now is your time to let go of being right, justified, angry, fearful, unworthy

Now is your time to let worthiness overtake you and reshape you

Now is your time to go to the next level – the level you have been anticipating for so long

Now is your time to experience that everything you’ve hoped and dreamed of becoming is already who you are and resides in your heart and soul

Now is your time to change focus from looking outward for validation and worth to inward where Love, Joy, lavish abundance and the real You dwells

Now is your time to become aware, understand and know the Divine Presence that resides in you and through you and as you

Now is your time to allow yourself to be wrapped in the precious blanket of unconditional Love

Now is your time to let yourself be loved… by you

Now is your time to be free!

Today’s “leaping” exercise:  Find an uninterrupted, relaxing spot.  If you can, go outdoors and find a spot in nature that gives you a sense of joy and peace.  Get comfortable, and take 4-5 deep breaths.  Focus on your breathing.  Allow the events, thoughts and circumstances of the day to drift gently away for a few moments.  Now it is time to claim and revel in your independence.  It is time to “Come to the Edge” and embrace the next level of your life.  Out loud, if you can, read the following:

My Declaration of Freedom

Now is my time to be free

Now is my time

Now is my time

Now is my time to let go

Now is my time to let go of the habits of fear, insecurity, sameness

Now is my time to let go of it all and release whatever is holding me back

Now is my time to let go of being right, justified, angry, fearful, unworthy

Now is my time to let worthiness overtake me and reshape me

Now is my time to go to the next level – the level I have been anticipating for so long

Now is my time to experience that everything I’ve hoped and dreamed of becoming is already who I am and resides in my heart and soul

Now is my time to change focus from looking outward for validation and worth to inward where Love, Joy, lavish abundance and the real Me dwells

Now is my time to claim the glory that is me

Now is my time to become aware, understand and know the Divine Presence that resides in me and through me and as me

Now is my time to allow myself to be wrapped in the precious blanket of unconditional Love

Now is my time to let myself be loved… by me

 

Happy Independence Day – Joan Kappes

 

 

 

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10 Ingredients for Experiencing a Fabulous Life

The following has been lovingly gifted to us by my friend, Steve-Garnaas Holmes:

Be grateful for the love that surrounds you, and for the opportunities you have to love.

Be mindful of your place in this world, and your connection to people you care about.

Never doubt that you are loved, though those who love you may be far away.

Love people, every chance you get.  Spend your love recklessly; it will never be wasted. It is the spending, not the result, that enriches us.

Pay attention to the moment that you’re in. It will pass. It is a transition, not a final destination.

Each moment is a letting go and a beginning.

Love in this moment.

Receive what this moment offers you.

Be lovingly attentive to what is, in the present moment.

What comes next is full of promise, not the least of which is this: that there will always be more love. Trust this, and let God’s delight fill you.

Today’s “leaping” exercise:  Each hour while you are awake today, stop for a moment and notice the love that surrounds you.  How did it come?  Who offered it?  Where did it come from?  Also, during each hour, find an opportunity to love – it can be anyone, circumstance, thing, yourself!  Be present to the moment of it.  Experience that in the giving, you are receiving even more love.  Repeat each day!

Living this simple recipe is living a “Come to the Edge Today” life – Joan Kappes

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The Two Most Powerful Words: ‘I Choose’

Words have power! They are born from our thoughts and our thoughts have great influence on the quality of our life.

Yes, our thoughts influence our words, but did you know that words can also influence our thoughts, shift our focus and change our underlying beliefs? (It’s like magic, only better!)

Two of the most powerful spoken words I know of that contain massive amounts of freedom and power….

“I CHOOSE”

When used deliberately, these words unlock the freedom and power to l-i-v-e, create and experience your life!

Simple. Powerful. Life changing.

Saying “I choose” (about anything) proclaims to yourself, to God/Source and to everyone that:
• “I” choose: This is my thought, choice, desire – no one elses
• I am aware that I am the creator of my life!
• I am aware of the gift of my free will and I am choosing to use it
• I am worthy to think it (whatever it is), proclaim it and allow it to flow to me
• It is on-purpose and deliberate. (This is a very powerful gift and tool for living the life of your dreams)
• It is a tool that helps me be aware of what I want and what I am thinking
• It is a declaration to God/Source that I am clear, not wishy washy about what I want. (Have you ever asked someone what kind of gift they want and their reply: “I don’t know; anything is fine”. VS a 4 year olds answer: “I want this toy in this color, in this size and this model….” It is more fun and fulfilling for everyone (including you, God/Source and all of your friends if you are clear!)
• It’s putting myself on “the map”. It’s saying, Yes! I am here and I count! I have value!
• It beginning (or continuing) my awareness of the gift of living my life on purpose – my life at “The Edge”, where all the joy and freedom lives!
• It means I am allowing myself to be free to be Me!

Today’s “leaping” exercise: Today’s exercise will create new adventures for you! Intentionally “choose” to think about what you want. Commit to experiencing a minimum of 5 different scenarios throughout the day by declaring out loud: “I choose to……….” Be aware of what this feels like.  (Example:  “I choose to focus and take away one new idea out of today’s meeting,” or “I choose to drink 64 oz of water today”, or “I choose to acknowledge and feel the love of my pet as they greet me today”.)  Record the ‘what’ and the resulting feeling in your notebook. Repeat this exercise for 21 days (the amount of time it takes to form a new habit). Note: If it happens to feel a little awkward at first, it’s ok. Like anything else, with practice, it will become more comfortable.   After 21 days, or 105 declarations (!) it will be second nature for you to declare who you really are!

You have the freedom, the power and the magic already within you.  All you have to do is choose- Joan Kappes

 

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You Can Touch The Snake – A Lesson In Building Confidence

Living a ‘Come to the Edge Today’ life includes seeing ourselves with new, expanded vision. It involves creating new beliefs and declarations of who I am.  It means shedding the skin of the “me” created years or decades ago (the one that doesn’t “fit” anymore).

We may find ourselves asking: “How can I embrace the Me that is inside? Sometimes there seems to be so much baggage and fear and insecurity holding me back…………”

How? Baby steps!; deliberate baby steps will  build new beliefs about who you really are and who you want to become!  With each step, you will grow and expand!

I want to share with you a “TED Talk” which offers a delightful “snake” story and steps for building the confidence to “shed our old skin”.  After viewing, I invite you to complete the “leaping exercise” (below) to help let go of the old and become the new you! Enjoy!

Today’s “leaping” exercise: After viewing the video, spend a few moments thinking of one circumstance in your life that is similar to the snake example in the video. What “stops” you? It can be a circumstance, thing, person….anything that holds you back. Brainstorm 5 or more specific baby steps you can take to ‘ease’ your way into touching your snake. Commit to taking step one TODAY. Begin. Begin. Begin. Resolve to complete all 5 steps. Give yourself these series of small successes as your gift to you! Feel the success! Feel your confidence soar!

 

Congratulations on touching your snake! – Joan Kappes

 

Life happens at “The Edge”!

 

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The Playground of Your Life

Have you noticed that some people thrive in the area of relationships yet struggle with finances? Others are rolling in the dough, yet are lonely and alone while still others have amazing relationships yet continually struggle with chronic health issues.

Why is this?

Over the years, each of us creates unique combinations with these areas; I call these areas (abundance, relationships, health) ‘playgrounds’. It seems that while all of us play in each area, we tend to have developed one particular playground which has become the perfect focal point for our (potential) major growth. (This is the area some may call their area of greatest struggle, pain, challenge or blockage, but I choose to call it ‘playing in the playground’, because this is what we do when living a “Come to the Edge Today” life – we choose to focus our play and create in the sandbox where we experience the most growth and expansion!)

Playing in this playground that you have developed over the years can lead to the greatest re-discovery of who you really are and what you’re really made of. It contains everything required: “Toys”, “blocks”, struggles, tools, circumstances, people and events for experiencing the “You” that you’ve been searching for! It is THE place to be!

“You’ve got to be kidding me, Joan”, you say. “I try to avoid that playground at all costs! It’s too painful. It’s too big! It’s easier for me to just sit on the bench and ask: Why do these things happen to me – I never have enough money (I’ve never had a quality relationship, or I’ve always had poor health)! Why me? Poor, poor me……”

If you are willing to venture into that playground….just for a little while, you’ll discover the real answer to “why me?” You’ll also discover that the real “You” is already playing there and so is God/Source… and so much more! If you are willing, read on and I’ll show you how…

Today’s “leaping” exercise: The purpose of this exercise is to take a fresh look at your playground (abundance, relationships, health) you’ve been avoiding or ‘dealing/struggling with’. We will be using the reflection below in four different ways.
You’ll want to give yourself approximately 30 minutes for this ‘playtime’. Please follow all of the steps, as one builds upon another.

You will need: A quiet, uninterrupted space, a notebook and pen (please do not use your computer for this exercise)

1. Take several deep breaths. Breathe slowly in and out………allow yourself to focus on your breathing.

2. Slowly, read the reflection below, then go to step 3.

“There are no accidents, (your name). If it’s appeared on your life radar, this is why: To teach you that dreams come true; to reveal that you have the power to fix what’s broken and heal what hurts; to catapult you beyond seeing with just your physical senses; and to lift the veils that have kept you from seeing that you’re already the person you dreamed you’d become. There are no accidents, (your name).” *

3. In your notebook, write the above reflection in its entirety…….write it slowly and intentionally.

4. Now, underline words or phrases that “popped out” as you read and wrote it. Notice what you underlined.

5. Next, re-write the entire passage a second time. (It is important to entirely rewrite it, rather than just re-read it). As you write, allow your heart to show you which playground (abundance, relationships, health) is the one that, for now can lead to you to your greatest expansion.

6. Record which playground you’ve chosen for your focus of growth. Write a little story about it. Include people, circumstances, some events, toys, tools, struggles that are contained in your playground. Create the image as detailed as you can.

7. Now, let’s switch perspectives. Rewrite the reflection a third time. This time, as you write, focus on the words and message as if God/Source is describing you. When complete, underline words or phrases that “pop” from this perspective. How does this perspective feel? Any new insights?

8. Lastly, rewrite it completely a fourth time. This time, use the reflection as a prayer of thanksgiving, inserting “Thank you” for each: “Thank you that there are no accidents. Thank you that this playground has appeared on my life’s radar. Thank you that dreams do come true. Thank you that I have the power to fix what’s broken and heal what hurts. Thank you that I am being catapulted beyond seeing with just my physical senses. Thank you that the veil is being lifted and I am seeing that I am already the person I dreamed I’d become. Thank you that there are no accidents. Thank you that I am growing and expanding. Thank you for my playground.”

9.  Listen to your new insights. Feel whatever it is you are feeling. Allow yourself to let go and be thankful. Allow yourself to be the “You” that you really are and, through this lens view your playground in a fresh, new way.

10. Read this reflection often. Play in your playground daily with fresh perspective and adventure knowing that the “why” is only filled with Love.

The toys in the sandbox are looking pretty fun now, aren’t they? – Joan Kappes
*From ‘Notes from the Universe’ – Mike Dooley

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Swinging On A Star – A Mom’s Story

mommy [mom-ee] -noun: 1. every woman who has nurtured and cared for a person or object  2. every woman who has given birth to an idea, thought or dream

This perfect description inspired me to reflect on my own birthing/mothering experience.

I have the joy of sharing life with two amazing daughters, recent graduates from high school and college.  Over the years, I have had thousands of opportunities to play a part in their journey of giving birth and subsequent growth.

I found my “motherly” mission statement, interestingly enough on a Hallmark card: “A mother helps you push your swing so you can touch the stars”.  This perfectly stated what I believe a Mommy’s role to be.

Living by this motto, I’d like to share with you some examples of how this plays out in parenting (and in relationships with all the people in my life).

Beliefs that have grown from this motto:

  • They are not “mine” (as in, “These are MY children”, often used as a form of ownership or control)
  • They get to choose the swing.  It is their life.  It is their dream.  It is their journey
  • I am their guide, looking for ways of cultivating their experience of living life to the fullest
  • It is my role to be aware of who they truly are and foster this becoming
  • I trust that their inner Spirit knows the way, therefore I listen and hold the light for their dreams and talents to grow and flourish
  • I am a lighthouse, a beacon for their dreams

Ruth, age 23 is a sweet, fun, extroverted, left brain adventurer!  Her junior year in high school, we received a postcard from a US college in Switzerland.  She showed interest in attending, as her passion had been to travel and explore.  This opportunity of attending college in Europe, complete with myriads of travel experiences as well as meeting people from dozens of countries, would literally lay the world at her feet.  I pursued this idea and a way was made clear for her to go.  At age 18, we “pushed that swing” all the way to Lugano,Switzerland!  Was it hard “letting her go?”  Yes and no.  Yes, because we wouldn’t see each other for many months, but in another way, it was very easy.  She was launching the life of her dreams and I was privileged to play a major role in making it happen!

Ellen, age 19 is a gentle, wise, introverted, right brain traveler!  At age 2 she asked me if we could say our prayers at night so we could “Thank God”.  She has always marched to the beat of her own drummer and it has been my honor to grow with her as she creates her own symphony.  For example, for her senior prom, she chose a prom dress that was beautiful and “pricey”.  She set her sites on it and said “Mom, this is the dress for me”.  I asked, “How are you going to pay for it”?  She confidently said, “I know I will have it.  The money will come.”  Feeling rather awkward at playing the “let’s-get-real” parenting role, yet not wanting her to be disappointed, I said, “What if you don’t get enough money?”  She said to me, “Mom, you’re always telling me that things will work out.  I know I will have the money.  It’s going to happen.”  Well, with ‘knowing’ and believing like that (I could feel it emanating from her soul), I decided to live by my motto and let the magic unfold as she so clearly knew it would.  Low and behold, the money showed up in the perfect amount, at the perfect time!  Her dream prom dress looked fabulous and shined especially bright because Ellen knew she allowed it!  I was proud of myself for getting out of the way from her already high-flying swing!!

All of us are Exceptional Women, eagerly pushing the swing (when needed) for those we love so they can touch their stars!

Celebrating all women who know that ‘letting go’ is the only way to fly-Joan Kappes

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