Where are You Christmas?

“Where are you Christmas?  Why can’t I find you?  I’ve looked everywhere – I’ve been to the Mall of America – the largest mall in the US and I didn’t find you there.  I visited Santa at 3 different malls and you weren’t there either.  I checked off everything on my “to do” list when I finally finished at 2 AM and only felt emptiness.  WHERE ARE YOU?  I’m doing everything they said I should do to have a “Merry Christmas”, but I don’t feel a thing.  I’m disappointed.  I’m sad.  I can’t find you.  I have changed.  I have grown up.”

“Whoa!  My darling child, don’t you know that all of the “to do” lists and carols, gifts and decorations – everything you’ve  been told to do in order to have a Merry Christmas have meaning only AFTER it flows from your heart?”

“Oh, but how do I get it to flow from my heart?  How do I feel you?  I purchased 5 books on “how to” have a great holiday and it said nothing about Christmas first “flowing from my heart”!  You must be out there, somewhere!  Perhaps another mall…..”

“You can only see me “out there” if you feel me and experience me first on the inside.  I am the still, small voice in your heart – not in your head or on the loud speaker at the mall.  You’ll recognize me when you relax and let go of all those ‘shoulda’, ‘coulda’, ‘oughta’s’.  You’ll feel your heart warm when you slow down and spend time within.  All the lasting gifts you really want are stored there and they are all ready for you to unwrap!   When you spend time within, you will at last feel your worth.  Feeling this, you will be filled with genuine love.  With that “knowing”, THEN go to the mall and celebrate FROM that love; you’ll feel me and see me everywhere!!  Christmas is an ‘inside job’.  It may seem awkward at first, but oh,,,,,,,,,,Ho, Ho, Ho, you’ll find the Christmas that never ends there!”

 Today’s “leaping” exercise:   Before going to the mall, baking, writing cards or the many items on your “to do” list, allow yourself 15 minutes to relax in a quiet place.  Put on some quiet music, or just enjoy the silence.  Breathe slowly ….in and out, in and out at least 10 times.  Try to quiet your mind by focusing on your breathing.  Relax.  Relax.  Visualize your heart being surrounded by love (this can be in the form of visualizing a light beam, or musical notes, or anything that represents love to you).  Then, think of the people you will be shopping, baking or preparing for.  Include them into your love-heart circle.  Again, focus on the visualization rather than on activating new thoughts.  Allow yourself to feel the experience and feel the love that is being generated there.  Next, feel gratitude for yourself and these people.  Allow yourself to feel the love generating from this visualization.  When you feel you are complete, take a few moments to enjoy your new state of being……….then, in love, go shopping!

Loving Christmas from the inside – Joan Kappes

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Believe and Fly!

“Believe in what your heart is saying

Hear the melody that’s playing.

There’s no time to waste

There’s so much to celebrate

Believe in what you feel inside

Give your dreams the wings to fly

You have everything you need

If you just Believe”

The one thing I know about humans is that we are magnificent dreamers!  We ALL dream – every day – every hour; we can’t help ourselves – it is who we are.  Dreams originate in our heart and are communicated through the guidance of our feelings and the gentle nudging which comes from within.

Somewhere along the way, we internalized this silly notion that dreaming must be relegated to a minor corner of our life reserved for “someday”, vacations and perhaps Christmas (if children are present).  The messages from the heart urging us to follow our dreams have been so quieted by our logical mind, adulthood, “the way things are” and on and on that we no longer hear much of anything.

But wait… there is this faint melody playing – like bells in the distance.  At first we do not recognize it.  In time, we do hear a faint noise which grows louder and louder.  It now rings crisply and beautifully from our heart and  – yes, our head now acknowledges it too! Finally, it is strong and persistent, not willing to leave us again.  At last we acknowledge it – “OK, dream of my heart, I hear you!”  Excitement grows within us – can it be that MY dreams will come true?

Yes!  However, an acknowledged dream must be allowed to fly or it will wither.  We must give it permission to fly!  We must let go of our logic, our fears, our doubts and let go – we must give flight to our dreams and SOAR WITH IT!  We have “Come to the Edge” and now it is time to fly!

Once you let go, you soar and the creative forces of the Universe will be the wind beneath your wings.  They will carry you to places far beyond your dreaming – if you just believe AND if you let go and give your dreams the wings to fly!

(After all, you DO have everything you need; it’s been with you all the time).

Today’s “leaping” exercise:

bird notesSpend time alone writing all the dreams you remember and/or those you have now.  Acknowledge them.  Be grateful for them.  Listen to their melody and allow its volume to grow.  With these in mind, relax, either sitting or lying down with your eyes closed as you listen to the song “Come to the Edge Today” (click the link to hear the song).  Visualize yourself as the traveler (holding your dreams in your hand).  In the hours and days to come, be aware of the opportunities to fly.  (Believe me, the opportunities will present themselves!)  Eagerly anticipate your flight!  Allow it!

Enjoying the beautiful melodies we all are playing – Joan Kappes

You Tube:  “Believe”  Images:  Google

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A Gift of Simple Wisdom

Christmas is the season of giving and receiving, the season of sharing traditions, stories and wisdom from both the young and the old.  I’d like to share 45 of the most simple, life changing words of wisdom from a woman who lives her life at “The Edge”.  Her wisdom is a gift to us all.

Written by Regina Brett, of the Plain Dealer, Cleveland, Ohio .

“To celebrate growing older, I once wrote the 45 lessons life taught me. It is the most requested column I’ve ever written.”

1. Life isn’t fair, but it’s still good.

2. When in doubt, just take the next small step.

3. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone.

4. Your job won’t take care of you when you are sick. Your friends and parents will. Stay in touch.

5. Pay off your credit cards every month.

6. You don’t have to win every argument. Agree to disagree.

7. Cry with someone. It’s more healing than crying alone.

8. It’s OK to get angry with God. He can take it.

9. Save for retirement starting with your first paycheck.

10. When it comes to chocolate, resistance is futile

11. Make peace with your past so it won’t screw up the present.

12. It’s OK to let your children see you cry.

13. Don’t compare your life to others. You have no idea what their journey is all about.

14. If a relationship has to be a secret, you shouldn’t be in it.

15. Everything can change in the blink of an eye. But don’t worry; God never blinks.

16. Take a deep breath. It calms the mind.

17. Get rid of anything that isn’t useful, beautiful or joyful.

18. Whatever doesn’t kill you really does make you stronger.

19. It’s never too late to have a happy childhood. But the second one is up to you and no one else.

20. When it comes to going after what you love in life, don’t take no for an answer.

21. Burn the candles, use the nice sheets, wear the fancy lingerie. Don’t save it for a special occasion. Today is special.

22. Over prepare, then go with the flow.

23. Be eccentric now. Don’t wait for old age to wear purple.

24. The most important sex organ is the brain.

25. No one is in charge of your happiness but you.

26. Frame every so-called disaster with these words ‘In five years, will this matter?’

27. Always choose life.

28. Forgive everyone everything.

29. What other people think of you is none of your business.

30. Time heals almost everything. Give time time.

31. However good or bad a situation is, it will change.

32. Don’t take yourself so seriously. No one else does.

33. Believe in miracles.

34. God loves you because of who God is, not because of anything you did or didn’t do.

35. Don’t audit life. Show up and make the most of it now.

36. Growing old beats the alternative — dying young.

37. Your children get only one childhood.

38. All that truly matters in the end is that you loved.

39. Get outside every day. Miracles are waiting everywhere.

40. If we all threw our problems in a pile and saw everyone else’s, we’d grab ours back.

41. Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need.

42. The best is yet to come…

43. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up.

44. Yield.

45. Life isn’t tied with a bow, but it’s still a gift.

Today’s “leaping” practice:  Choose the top 3 that “speak to you”.  Decide to live them everyday for the next 21 days.  Repeat.  Enjoy.  Live!

Gratefully discovering life’s wisdom at “The Edge” – Joan Kappes

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I Need a Silent Night


“I need a silent night, a holy night
To hear an angel voice through the chaos and the noise
I need a midnight clear, a little peace right here
To end this crazy day with a silent night” – Amy Grant

It’s mid-December:  The calendars are filled with activities, traditions, holiday “to do” lists (in addition to the regular to do lists).  The hours speed by and the “want to” and “have to” activities linger in the back of our minds waiting for the time when they are  checked off on the never ending “to do” list.

Oh yes, then there is the “wouldn’t it be nice” list:  Relaxing, doing nothing but watching the lights on the tree, listening to holiday music, enjoying the decorations, the food, taking time to be with family, recognizing and savoring the love and joy that cleverly appear in our day.  Have these too, become just another list of things that need to be fit into my already packed month?

How do I experience my Silent Night, my Holy Night?  How do I hear the angel’s voice and experience the midnight clear?

The Silent Night, the Holy Night, the Well-Being that we seek has already been given and it is found within.  Repeat:  It has already been given and it is found within!

Ok, so how to begin (or continue) to unwrap and experience these gifts?  It’s actually very simple:  Allow yourself “Silent Night/Holy Night” time twice each day.  Here’s how:

Today’s “leaping” exercise:

Begin your “Silent Night/Holy Night” time by slowly breathing at least 5-10 deep breaths before listening, reading or writing.  (Note:  This step is very important because it allows your mind, body and spirit to slowdown, regroup and refocus!)

Commit to spend a minimum of 15 minutes at the beginning and 15 minutes at the end of each day specifically focusing upon one thing that gives you peace and joy.  Some ideas:  Music***, inspirational readings, silence, journaling, etc.  Only you know what gives you peace and joy so just choose one and stay with it during that time period.  You may choose the same topic or choose a different one for the next 15 minute section.  As time goes on, you will be inspired and will find additional readings, music or ideas for deepening your – let’s call it “Silent Night/Holy Night” time.  The purpose of this time is to focus and receive peace and joy and experience the well-being that is You.  That’s all – just to allow yourself the time to experience joy, peace and well-being!  If you have time in the middle of the day to gift yourself with another “Silent Night/Holy Night” time, then do it!  This small amount of time will reframe your outlook on those “to do” lists.  You will be invigorated and now have the opportunity to approach those wanted (and unwanted) tasks with a new outlook and a new sense of purpose to the season.  Sound simple?  It is!  Allow yourself the time to experience peace and joy – Experience a “Come to the Edge Today” Christmas!

Silence IS really Golden –Joan Kappes

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Breath of Heaven – Breath of Life

Today, during this season of gifts, let us unwrap the gift that literally brings us life:  The breath of heaven, our breathing.

It is a gift designed for automatic pilot.   If not, we could’t  function, create, work or play.  Breathing, in one sense is designed to be taken for granted, yet at Come to the Edge Today, we know there is much more to be unwrapped.

Breathing gives us more than continued physical life (a wondrous gift indeed!).  Breathing is the pathway which gently leads us from our mind (the place where we most frequently live) to the wisdom and wholeness of our heart, the place where the “bigger you” really dwells.  This is this place we long for and breathing can bring us there – quickly.

Come, experience something new!  Take the “leap” and allow this gift to lead you to your heart.

Today’s “leaping” exercise:  To begin, let us just “experience” breathing!  As we become familiar with it, we can trust it and as we trust, it will become easy for us to move from the mind and travel to the heart.

Allow yourself 15-20 minutes of uninterrupted, quiet time.  Turn off phones, music, tv, etc. – anything that will distract you.  Sit or lay in a comfortable position.  During these moments, simply focus on your breathing.  Feel your chest rise and fall.  Hear your breathing.  Feel the breath upon your face as you exhale.  Just notice what is happening.  Spend 3-5 minutes just noticing these things.  (Note, these are just guidelines – do what feels right to you).  Next, as you breathe deeply, focus on how this breathing is affecting your body.  Notice, as you breathe, that your body is relaxing.  Feel  your shoulders drop.  Feel the tension leave.  Imagine the oxygen flowing to all parts of your body.  Feel the pulsing of life moving through your fingers, your toes, your legs, your arms.  Continue breathing.  Continue focusing on breathing.  If you start to wander and begin creating tomorrow’s “to do” list, gently bring yourself back and focus only upon your breathing.

Enjoy the feeling and experience of it!  Soon, you will have left the busyness of your mind and you will be peacefully dwelling in your heart.  Once there, you will not “think” from your mind.  You will “experience” life from your heart.  Listen to it.  Hear it.  Receive its message.  Wrap yourself in Love.  Continue breathing.  Stay there as long as you’re comfortable, then record the experience and the gifts you received in your journal.

If you are persistent, this pathway of breathing into your heart will soon become part of you.  It may seem a little awkward at first, but then, most leaps taken at “The Edge” are.  Oh, but SO worth it!

Just breathe – Joan Kappes

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25 Thanksgiving Quotes – 25 Experiences of Gratitude

What is it about a grateful heart that feels so good?  Have you noticed that when you appreciate and acknowledge with gratitude the day is brighter?  Have you felt the lightness of your being when you give thanks?  Our hearts open and warm when we see, experience and acknowledge with thanksgiving, the gifts lavished upon us moment-to-moment.

For centuries, millions have felt and used gratitude’s magic and blessings.  Clearly, there is much benefit in its use or so many would not have shared their experiences!

Today I want to share with you thoughts and experiences of 25 “Come-to-the-Edge-Today” people who directly experienced the power of gratitude in their lives.

Today’s “leaping exercise”:  Notice the call to action in their description.  Be mindful of their thankfulness for the gift of gratitude.  Connect with the energy behind the words.  Feel the warmth and openness.  Slowly read each person’s experience.  Print a copy and place a star next to those comments that most resonate with you, or write them in your journal.  Read them often.  Next, write your thoughts and experiences of how the power of gratitude has gifted you.  If you have yet to experience this, write an intention for beginning to use it daily.  (It won’t take long for its magic to show up!)

“When I started counting my blessings, my whole life turned around” – Willie Nelson

“Whenever we are appreciative, we are filled with a sense of well-being and swept up by the feeling of joy” – M.J. Ryan

“Let us be grateful to people who make us happy – they are the charming gardeners who make our souls blossom” – Marcel Proust

“As we express our gratitude, we must never forget that the highest appreciation is not to utter words, but to live by them” – John F. Kennedy

“Hem your blessings with thankfulness so they don’t unravel” – Author Unknown

“I feel a very unusual sensation – if it is not indigestion, I think it must be gratitude” – Benjamin Disraeli

“Gratitude is the memory of the heart” – Jean Baptiste Massieu

Now, our God, we give you thanks, and praise your glorious name” – 1 Chronicles 29:13

“I would maintain that thanks are the highest form of thought, and that gratitude is happiness doubled by wonder” – G.K. Chesterton

“If the only prayer you ever say in your entire life is ‘thank you’, it will be enough” – Meister Eckhart

“Gratitude is the best attitude” – Anonymous

“No duty is more urgent than that of returning thanks” – Saint Ambrose

“People travel to wonder at the height of mountains, at the huge waves of the sea, at the long courses of rivers, at the vast compass of the ocean, at the circular motion of the stars; and they pass by themselves without wondering… Now, let us acknowledge the wonder of our physical incarnation— that we are here, in these particular bodies, at this particular time, in these particular circumstances. May we never take for granted the gift of our individuality” – Saint Augustine of Hippo

“We owe thankfulness to God, not sour faces” – Rumi

“Give thanks to the LORD, for he is good; his love endures forever” – Psalm 107:1

“If you concentrate on finding whatever is good in every situation, you will discover that your life will suddenly be filled with gratitude, a feeling that nurtures the soul” – Rabbi Harold Kushner

“Gratitude: A lively sense of future benefit” – A French Definition

“Thanksgiving is good but thanks-living is better” – Matthew Henry

“He enjoys much who is thankful for little; a grateful mind is both a great and a happy mind – Thomas Secker Archbishop of Cantebury

“Gratitude is the fairest blossom which springs from the soul; and the heart of man knoweth none more fragrant” – Hosea Ballou

“I awoke this morning with devout thanksgiving for my friends, the old and the new” – Ralph Waldo Emerson

“Gratitude is the fairest blossom which springs from the soul” – Henry Ward Beecher

“The best way to show my gratitude to God is to accept everything, even my problems, with joy” – Mother Teresa

“Let gratitude be the pillow upon which you kneel to say your nightly prayer” – Maya Angelou


Thankful for sharing this journey at “The Edge” with you –Joan Kappes

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Imagine Connecting With Love’s Flow!


Imagine connecting…………..

Imagine connecting with Love’s 24/7 flow…………

Let’s “Come to the Edge Today” and find out how!

In “What is Prayer, Really?” I shared that for me, prayer is the receiving of unconditional Love given continuously by God/All-That-Is/Source.  Prayer is creating the space to receive and flow this amazing, sought after Love.

Sounds good!  Yet how do I put myself in a place so I can be aware of it and receive it?  (From a Come to the Edge Today viewpoint, a life-changing place to be!)

This requires a leap in:  1) Believing that I am worthy to receive 2) Intentionally developing new habits of thought and awareness so I am able to recognize and experience the Love that continually flows to me.

Habits are just thoughts you keep thinking.”

How to begin?

New habits need new tools:

Today’s “leaping” exercises:

  1. Let’s begin with the possibility that the above is true.  Take the leap and imagine you are worthy of a 24/7 stream of Love.  Imagine that you are aware of Love flowing through your life; see it, feel it, experience it.  Now Imagine that you can flow it outwards and expand it to others.  This is a good place to begin!

Like any developed, ingrained habit, this will take time. Imagine what it feels like to be worthy.  Imagine what it feels like to be worthy of receiving Love everyday!  Every hour!  Every minute!

  1. Write post-it notes and place “I am worthy”, “I am worthy of Love”, “I am worthy of experiencing Love” everywhere – on the bathroom mirror, in the car, on the fridge, under your pillow, etc.  Remember – you are developing a wonder-filled new habit of thought – a habit that will allow you to receive the greatest gift of a lifetime, the ability to receive unconditional Love (in all its forms)!
  1. Following is my favorite ‘door-opening-Love-allowing’ tool (“When You Say You Love Me” by Josh Groban).  This really helps me develop my “worthiness habit” and to experience the ever-present flow of Love offered so richly from the Lover of All.

Allow 15 minutes of uninterrupted time.  Create a quiet, comfortable place.  Begin quieting your mind and its busy thoughts by breathing slowing, in and out for 10-15 breathes.  Gently allow thoughts to be set aside for a few minutes.  Close your eyes and listen intentionally to the song.  Hear the instruments.  Hear the words.  Feel the energy.  Connect with the Love flowing in, out and through you.

When finished, remain quiet.  Allow yourself to feel the flow of Love coming to you and through you.

Now, listen again.  Intend for even more allowing.  This time, imagine this is a two-way Love song.  God/Source singing and flowing Love to You and You singing and flowing Love to Source.  When, complete, allow yourself to continue flowing the Love.

Record the experience in your journal.   Keep it heart-centered (rather than mind centered).

Coming to believe and know that you are worthy of unconditional Love flowing through you, and then experiencing it with full awareness is the gift (and habit and the prayer) of a lifetime!* –Joan Kappes

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*I dedicate this to Sue, Karen and all of us who are coming to experience the Love that continually flows to us and through us.  Hooray for coming to know we are worthy!!!”

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