Mind talk vs Heart talk -It’s a ‘No-Brainer’

“Most people are so completely identified with the voice in the head – the incessant stream of involuntary and compulsive thinking and the emotions that accompany it – that we may describe them as being possessed by their mind.  As long as you are completely unaware of this, you take the thinker to be who you are.”  -Eckart Tolle (A New Earth, Awakening To Your Life’s Purpose)

Have you heard of the phrase “mind talk” or “monkey mind”?  It is used by us everyday or, more accurately, it uses us everyday.  I’m sure you recognize it – it’s the voice in our head that has an opinion about everything:

  • Judgment with an air of superiority:  “Right – like you’re going to succeed in that”
  • I am right/You are wrong: “You can’t do that.  I tried it before and it can’t be done”
  • Labeling:  “He is stupid.  She is a jerk.  That group is dangerous”
  • Resentment/Holding a grudge:  “She hurt me so badly – I will never forgive her”
  • Complaining:  “Why am I the one always stuck doing the chores?”
  • Justification:  “I am better than she is because…

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“The intuitive mind is a sacred gift and the rational mind is a faithful servant.  We have created a society that honors the servant and has forgotten the gift.”                 –Albert Einstein    ________________________________________________

Yes, the mind IS a great gift to be used and I honestly believed that my thoughts were “me”.  I was shocked when I realized that I am not my thoughts.  The implications are enormous!

For instance, what if my mind/ego supported a falsehood that believes in separateness and protection, defensiveness and fear and the need to strengthen ‘self’ to the diminishment of the other?

What if my heart/soul, the larger part of Me contained the true “Me”?  What if we are all connected with each other through the great connection with God, with All-That-Is?  What if I am worthy because of it?  What if you are worthy too?  What if this is the Love I have been searching for?  What if Love and its powerful energy are found not in my mind, but in my heart/soul?

OK, then how does one learn to lead with the heart rather than reacting to all the mind chatter? As with anything, it is just a  habit and habits can be learned.

Today’s “leaping” exercises” Following are some practical tips for learning to quiet the mind talk and increase your heart talk:

  • Pay attention  to what you are thinking!  Notice your thoughts! Become aware of what you think!
    • Keep a notebook of the types of thoughts that run through your mind
    • Stop every 10 minutes or so and notice what has been on your mind
  • Breathe!  Stop what you are doing and focus on your breathing.
    • Listen without mind commentary
    • When you notice the commentary that inevitably follows, re-focus again on the listening
    • Practice, practice, practice!
    • Try it for 5 seconds and increase over time
    • Breathing is one of the best methods to slow down mind talk – quickly!
  • Listen and focus on the sounds of nature (try to keep “thoughts” out of it)
    • Listen without commentary
    • Practice, practice, practice!
    • Try it for 5 seconds and increase over time
  • Listen and focus on any “white noise” surrounding you (fans, computers, motors, etc)
    • Listen without commentary
    • Practice, practice, practice!
    • Try it for 5 seconds and increase over time
  • Learn to meditate
    • Practice!
    • This is one of the best ways to quiet your mind, allowing you to open to your heart’s messages
  • Literally give your attention to your heart area
    • Feel your heart beat
    • Learn to “sense” that portion of You
    • In time, listen for and “hear” the messages emanating from your heart area (they ARE there and you WILL hear them!)

It may surprise you what is going on!  Once you become aware of how your mind is interacting with You and once you become aware of  the wisdom pouring from your heart/soul, you will soon be leaping and soaring toward creating the life of your dreams!

Lovin’ listening to the heart talk –Joan Kappes

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Let Your Firework Shine!

Do you feel that spark within you?  It’s there, waiting to be ignited – by you!

What is it that is bursting to be born?  If you are reading this, NOW is your time to ignite that light and let it shine!

Declare your independence from unworthiness, fear and hesitation.  Declare that today you are allowing the real you to shine through!  Just begin.  No need to climb the mountain in one day, just begin the walk.  Today.

It’s your time!  Let it go!  Come on and experience who you really are!

Today’s “leaping” exercise:  Create your own  Independence Day ceremony!  Purchase a few firecrackers.  As you light each one, declare and celebrate the new part of you that is coming to birth.  (A few “oohs and ahhs” are appropriate here!)   If fireworks are not available, light a match for each new declaration!  Celebrate and “own the night like the Fourth of July”!

Cause “Baby, you’re a firework, come on show yourself what you’re worth…..”

Boom!  Boom!  Boom! –Joan Kappes

Special thanks to my daughter, Ellen for the inspiration of this Independence Day post.

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You Tube – Katy Perry, Firework

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3 Easy Steps to Calm Yourself…

So here you are; you’ve “Come to The Edge” living your life with gratitude, joy and purpose, leaping and soaring with dreams as your wings.  Life is full and rich and fabulous – then BAM!  Something unexpected happens and you feel as though you just hit a brick wall.  You experience fear and panic (you know, those feelings that tell us we are on a path other than the one LIFE has led us to?)  You are at a loss as to how to calm down and refocus.

Here are 3 simple and VERY effective “Come to the Edge Today” tools for helping you to immediately regroup and refocus:

  1. Stop what you are doing
  2. Breathe slowly and deeply 3-5 times
  3. Repeat to yourself, “In this moment, I am ok.  In this moment, I am fine.  In this moment, all is well”.  Repeat, repeat, repeat until you feel yourself relaxing into this new reality.

Why do these work so well?

  1. Because they are simple and easy to use
  2. They allow your body to relax (breathing calms the mind and the body immediately)  and your mind to refocus (remember, the mind can hold only one thought at a time)
  3. Consistently using these affirmations, you will prove to your mind that they are “true”, believable and trustworthy, thus allowing your mind and your body to relax in this “knowing”.

You may be saying, “I just experienced this terrible (fill in the blank) – how can everything be fine?”  Let’s look at this from a “Now- moment” point of view.  “Now” means THIS moment ONLY.  Not the next moment, nor the moment after that, nor does it mean projecting thoughts into the future or the past.

Let’s discover the power of this new view of reality – Today’s “leaping” exercise:  For several minutes, ponder and “poke around” this idea: “In this very moment (the ‘Now’ moment), everything IS ok.  In this ‘Now’ moment, everything IS fine.  In this ‘Now’ moment, all IS well.”  Verbalize it out loud or in your mind.  Feel its truth.  Repeat.

Practice this daily so that when you do feel anxious or panicky you can easily call upon this effective tool and experience its immediate ‘relief results’.  Ask yourself daily,  “In THIS moment, am I ok?  In THIS moment, am I fine?  In THIS moment, is everything well?”  (Remember, we’re talking present-moment time.)

Very soon, you will come to experience and “know” that you are ok,  you are loved, you are safe.   Well-Being is yours – moment by moment.

Be here ‘Now’ – be someplace else later – Joan Kappes

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Experience These Lazy, Hazy, Crazy Days Of Summer!

I live in Minnesota – yes, a cold and wintry state.  We northern climate folks savor our 90 “holy days” commonly known as June, July and August.  Thankfully, These “holy days” have finally arrived so it’s time to experience their gifts:  The earthy smell of unfrozen ground (yes, dirt!), the beauty of color (especially green), the sweet fragrance of flowers, the sound of water lapping onto the dock, the birds song greeting each new day, children screaming with delight splashing in their tiny swimming pools, the smell of a barbeque on a Summer’s evening – all these, and more are what we dream of during the colder, slower paced months of winter.  While each season shares its beauty, it is the energy and aliveness of Summer that we cherish so dearly.

As the delights of Summer’s sights, sounds, smells, tastes and experiences are upon us, I offer these moments of reflection as a “Come to the Edge Today” reminder to TAKE THE LEAP and experience the lazy, hazy, crazy days of Summer…NOW!

Take a leap! Experience something you’ve never tried before.   Allow yourself to wear a new Summer style!  Get a sassy new haircut (don’t worry – it will grow back if you don’t like it!).   Try a summer activity you’ve never experienced before (parasailing anyone?)  Get up early;  listen to the birds welcome the day.   Try planting new varieties of flowers or vegetables.   Walk an extra mile (or block).  Go to a local baseball game just for the fun of it.  Give yourself the pleasure of reading books and magazines on a hot Summer afternoon!  Sit beside a lake or river to just listen and watch (leave your ipod at home).  Take that long awaited trip touring the U.S.!  Invite neighbors over for a “just-because-it’s-Summer barbeque”!  And if you have accrued vacation time – Use It!

A “Come to the Edge” Summer is more about attitude and willingness to ‘let loose a little’ than it is about what you do or how much time you have to do it in.  For example:  Let’s say you have one hour before you begin a weekend shift at work.  You could moan about the fact that you have to work all weekend, and essentially waste away that hour OR you could declare your own one hour Summer holiday!  Here’s how that scenario could be transformed into a magical experience:  Instead of moaning, you head outside, grab your favorite lawn chair and soak your feet in a bucket of cold, soothing water.   While sipping a cold lemonade, you eagerly read a chapter from your favorite Summer book!  As a finale, you gently close your eyes for 15 minutes basking in the warmth of the sun as it shines lovingly upon your face.  You “get lost” in the pleasure and relaxation of the moment and emerge relaxed and refreshed…all in just 60 minutes!

Today’s “leaping” exercise:  Declare your own one hour holiday!  Create a magical hour!  Emerge relaxed and refreshed!  Repeat daily for 90 days!

Commit to really l-i-v-i-n-g these 90 days!

Allow yourself to slow down and enjoy the lazy, hazy crazy days of Summer!

Your best “lived” Summer is waiting for you – Joan Kappes

 

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I Am An Oak Tree

I am an Oak Tree

A Poem by Joan Kappes

I am an Oak Tree

Content with being who I am with no desire of being another

I am an Oak Tree

My growth is slow, steady and sure

 

 

I am an Oak Tree

My Roots are deep and wide

I am an Oak Tree

Whose trunk is filled with years of wisdom-bearing rings

I am an Oak Tree

My boughs bend and sway with the wind and rain

I am an Oak Tree

I let go of one season, rest, then embrace the next

I am an Oak Tree

Offering shade and nourishment to those in need

 

I am an Oak Tree

I have all that I need

I am an Oak Tree

Living only in the Now

I am an Oak Tree

My leaves open eagerly to absorb the warmth and nourishment of Light

 

 

I am an Oak Tree

I know who I am – Solid, Majestic, Beautiful

I am an Oak Tree

I AM.

Today’s “leaping” exercise:  Copy or print this reflection.  Find an oak tree in your yard, neighborhood or park.  Uninterrupted, slowly read the poem (out loud or silently) 3 or more times.  Be touched by its strength and inspiration.  Allow yourself to “Come to the Edge Today” and soar with its truth.

 

I am an Oak Tree…and so are You – Joan Kappes

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5 Part Forgiveness Series

Stay tuned! Part 2 of the Forgiveness series will be released in a few weeks!
If you haven’t experienced Part 1, get started now!

Part 1: 25 Reasons To Forgive (Yourself & Others)

Part 2: The Masters of Forgiveness: How Did They Do It?

Part 3: Forgiving Yourself

Part 4: Forgiving God and Others

Part 5: How To Forgive – The Process

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25 Reasons To Forgive (Yourself & Others)

The topic of forgiveness came to light last week when my niece was chased by two girls around the playground (teasing, name calling, etc.)  Although the situation was ‘handled’ by the principal, it opened a life-giving door of opportunity for this 11 year old.  She is now experiencing a fork-in-the-road moment:  Does she choose the path of viewing this experience through the lens of justification, protection and fear or does she choose the path using the lens of love and forgiveness?  The choice is hers.

Daily, Life provides all of us with creative opportunities for choice.  Where we focus our lens will determine if we are weighed down by these circumstances, people and events or, if through forgiveness we are freed to fly.

Let’s ponder forgiveness through the “Come to the Edge Today” lens (always a life-giving vista!)

Forgiveness – A definition (as seen from “The Edge”):

  • It is living from the heart’s knowing and understanding
  • It is a focus from the heart’s point of view
  • It is allowing the heart to lead and the mind/ego to follow (not vice versa)
  • It is a state of being
  • It is an attitude
  • It is a choice
  • It is a habit
  • It is an opening to a life flooded with Love, Freedom and Joy

The Top 25 Reasons to Forgive (Yourself & Others):

  1. It gets you out of the mud.  You immediately become unstuck
  2. You feel better, lighter, unburdened
  3. Your shoulders, neck, head become relaxed
  4. You drop that 100 lb weight you’ve been carrying around (and that feels good!)
  5. You see the world through a new lens
  6. You open a new pathway to your heart (where L-I-F-E dwells)
  7. You do not have to carry the burden of that other’s person’s life around with you anymore
  8. You are in control of your life
  9. Letting-go of the hurt or perceived injustice frees you to be the loving person you really are
  10. Forgiveness allows you to let go and relax
  11. There is the opportunity for creating a new story
  12. It creates a new road so you can immediately move forward
  13. The grip and hold it had on you is gone – you are free!
  14. It creates the opportunity for healthier relationships
  15. It lowers blood pressure
  16. Who needs holding onto a hurt or grudge (there is no benefit!)
  17. It is the pathway to well-being
  18. It brings peace for the mind, the heart, the body, the soul
  19. Forgiveness allows you to experience hope, joy, peace and gratitude
  20. It moves you forward
  21. Forgiveness allows the heart to take the lead and gently places the ego/mind in the background
  22. It frees you from having the same old “movie” running through your head dictating your life
  23. You are free to create your own version of your life
  24. It gives you the opening for a bigger life
  25. It is a gift from You to You!

Today’s “leaping” exercise:  Allow yourself about 15 minutes of uninterrupted time.  Quietly play soothing, peaceful music as you make yourself comfortable in a chair or bed.  Close your eyes and breath deeply several times.  Relax.

Imagine yourself climbing a mountain.  You are loaded with a 100 lb backpack, carrying awkward gear, wearing heavy boots and clothing.  You have been climbing forever.  Each step becomes heavier and more difficult.  You cannot continue.  You cannot take one more step.  Feel the weight.  Feel the stress.  Feel the burden.  Now, say to yourself:  “Enough!  This is it!.  I do not need this anymore!”  Watch yourself eagerly remove your backpack and your gear.  Remove those heavy boots and jacket.  Now, experience the feeling of being unburdened, light, relaxed and free!  You are so excited you jump up and down with glee!  Feel the freedom.  Feel the lightness.  Fell the relief!  Remember it. When complete, write your experience of this exercise in your journal (at a later date, you’ll be glad you did).

This is the feeling of forgiveness! In time, you will not need to imagine your trip up the mountain and the release of the heavy physical burden.  In time, this will BE your life’s daily experience because you will “be” a forgiver!

Looking forward to this 6 part “Come to the edge Today” experience with you –Joan Kappes

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