I Am An Oak Tree

I am an Oak Tree

A Poem by Joan Kappes

I am an Oak Tree

Content with being who I am with no desire of being another

I am an Oak Tree

My growth is slow, steady and sure

 

 

I am an Oak Tree

My Roots are deep and wide

I am an Oak Tree

Whose trunk is filled with years of wisdom-bearing rings

I am an Oak Tree

My boughs bend and sway with the wind and rain

I am an Oak Tree

I let go of one season, rest, then embrace the next

I am an Oak Tree

Offering shade and nourishment to those in need

 

I am an Oak Tree

I have all that I need

I am an Oak Tree

Living only in the Now

I am an Oak Tree

My leaves open eagerly to absorb the warmth and nourishment of Light

 

 

I am an Oak Tree

I know who I am – Solid, Majestic, Beautiful

I am an Oak Tree

I AM.

Today’s “leaping” exercise:  Copy or print this reflection.  Find an oak tree in your yard, neighborhood or park.  Uninterrupted, slowly read the poem (out loud or silently) 3 or more times.  Be touched by its strength and inspiration.  Allow yourself to “Come to the Edge Today” and soar with its truth.

 

I am an Oak Tree…and so are You – Joan Kappes

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5 Part Forgiveness Series

Stay tuned! Part 2 of the Forgiveness series will be released in a few weeks!
If you haven’t experienced Part 1, get started now!

Part 1: 25 Reasons To Forgive (Yourself & Others)

Part 2: The Masters of Forgiveness: How Did They Do It?

Part 3: Forgiving Yourself

Part 4: Forgiving God and Others

Part 5: How To Forgive – The Process

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25 Reasons To Forgive (Yourself & Others)

The topic of forgiveness came to light last week when my niece was chased by two girls around the playground (teasing, name calling, etc.)  Although the situation was ‘handled’ by the principal, it opened a life-giving door of opportunity for this 11 year old.  She is now experiencing a fork-in-the-road moment:  Does she choose the path of viewing this experience through the lens of justification, protection and fear or does she choose the path using the lens of love and forgiveness?  The choice is hers.

Daily, Life provides all of us with creative opportunities for choice.  Where we focus our lens will determine if we are weighed down by these circumstances, people and events or, if through forgiveness we are freed to fly.

Let’s ponder forgiveness through the “Come to the Edge Today” lens (always a life-giving vista!)

Forgiveness – A definition (as seen from “The Edge”):

  • It is living from the heart’s knowing and understanding
  • It is a focus from the heart’s point of view
  • It is allowing the heart to lead and the mind/ego to follow (not vice versa)
  • It is a state of being
  • It is an attitude
  • It is a choice
  • It is a habit
  • It is an opening to a life flooded with Love, Freedom and Joy

The Top 25 Reasons to Forgive (Yourself & Others):

  1. It gets you out of the mud.  You immediately become unstuck
  2. You feel better, lighter, unburdened
  3. Your shoulders, neck, head become relaxed
  4. You drop that 100 lb weight you’ve been carrying around (and that feels good!)
  5. You see the world through a new lens
  6. You open a new pathway to your heart (where L-I-F-E dwells)
  7. You do not have to carry the burden of that other’s person’s life around with you anymore
  8. You are in control of your life
  9. Letting-go of the hurt or perceived injustice frees you to be the loving person you really are
  10. Forgiveness allows you to let go and relax
  11. There is the opportunity for creating a new story
  12. It creates a new road so you can immediately move forward
  13. The grip and hold it had on you is gone – you are free!
  14. It creates the opportunity for healthier relationships
  15. It lowers blood pressure
  16. Who needs holding onto a hurt or grudge (there is no benefit!)
  17. It is the pathway to well-being
  18. It brings peace for the mind, the heart, the body, the soul
  19. Forgiveness allows you to experience hope, joy, peace and gratitude
  20. It moves you forward
  21. Forgiveness allows the heart to take the lead and gently places the ego/mind in the background
  22. It frees you from having the same old “movie” running through your head dictating your life
  23. You are free to create your own version of your life
  24. It gives you the opening for a bigger life
  25. It is a gift from You to You!

Today’s “leaping” exercise:  Allow yourself about 15 minutes of uninterrupted time.  Quietly play soothing, peaceful music as you make yourself comfortable in a chair or bed.  Close your eyes and breath deeply several times.  Relax.

Imagine yourself climbing a mountain.  You are loaded with a 100 lb backpack, carrying awkward gear, wearing heavy boots and clothing.  You have been climbing forever.  Each step becomes heavier and more difficult.  You cannot continue.  You cannot take one more step.  Feel the weight.  Feel the stress.  Feel the burden.  Now, say to yourself:  “Enough!  This is it!.  I do not need this anymore!”  Watch yourself eagerly remove your backpack and your gear.  Remove those heavy boots and jacket.  Now, experience the feeling of being unburdened, light, relaxed and free!  You are so excited you jump up and down with glee!  Feel the freedom.  Feel the lightness.  Fell the relief!  Remember it. When complete, write your experience of this exercise in your journal (at a later date, you’ll be glad you did).

This is the feeling of forgiveness! In time, you will not need to imagine your trip up the mountain and the release of the heavy physical burden.  In time, this will BE your life’s daily experience because you will “be” a forgiver!

Looking forward to this 6 part “Come to the edge Today” experience with you –Joan Kappes

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Well, I Declare…

Declare: (verb) Announce something clearly or loudly- to state something in a plain, open, or emphatic way

Decide: (verb) To make a choice or come to a conclusion about something

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Today, let’s discover the power of declaration and the power of decision.  Why?  Because they will quickly lead you to “The Edge” of your dreams!

Who comes to mind when you think of the word, declaration?  Of course!  The signers of the Declaration of Independence; fifty-six men who shared a vision and declared (at the risk of high treason) the Colonies’ right to be free, independent states, absolved from all allegiance to the British crown!

Another  example:  In the ‘80’s, a dear friend of mine and I were sharing dreams for our life.  You know how these discussions go – this topic, that topic, on and on for hours.  Out of the blue, she declared this life-directing statement:  “I plan on living my life with financial abundance.  I just am.  I will always have enough – and more than enough”. These were not words of defiance or lack, simply a (profound) declaration of who she decided to be and who she will become.  Was she financially abundant or an expert at the time?  Hardly.  She was a new college graduate beginning one of those paying-your-dues type jobs.   Time has shown her declaration and decision of who she ‘is’ has manifested into a life of amazing financial abundance.   She has become her declaration.

Additional examples:  What makes Nelson Mandela, Mother Theresa, Pancho Barnes, heroes such as Susan B. Anthony and Harriet Tubman and yes, even Zac, Aaron and Nick from “Ghost Adventures” memorable?

They declared who they are!  They said, “I AM”…….

Nelson Mandela – I am a person committed to creating full equality for all South African citizens

Mother Theresa – I am an advocate for the poorest of the poor

Pancho Barnes – I am a female pilot and will live my dream (no matter what)

Susan B. Anthony – I am an advocate for women’s rights and women’s right to vote

Zac, Aaron, Nick – I am living life on my terms, doing what I love –  hunting ghosts!

They decided.  They decided:

  1. Who they are
  2. What they want

WHY DOES THIS MATTER? Because declaring who you are creates the opening for guidance (from God/Source, the Universe, others and yourself), focus and direction – prerequisites for living your grand life!  It is a freedom that ‘clicks in’ and says “YES!  This is Me!”  It is the dance of your soul and your physical “you” (an experience you will want to encounter again and again).  It is a feeling of being “grounded” and “at home”. It is the feeling of “aliveness”.  And, pragmatically, when you declare who you are and what you want, focus enters your life instantaneously (an essential tool for creating the life of your dreams!)   The “hows” of life may not yet be known, but the “who” is, and this is what sets the wheels in motion for circumstances, people and events to come to you!

“Ok, but how do I begin?”  “What if I can’t think of anything?”  “What if I have many declarations?”  “What if I am not even close to the ‘me’ I want to be?”  “Do I have to tell anyone?”

Today’s “leaping” exercise:  “Come to the Edge Today” and be Bold!  Take a chance! Begin with general statements such as “I am loveable.  I am worthy.  I am abundant.  (These are important declarations because they are the foundation for life’s unfolding events.)  It is ok if you have specific or multiple declarations.  Remember, you do not have to have it all together beforehand (the founding fathers certainly did not).  There are no inappropriate statements; you are creating You and  there is no wrong answer in that!  If you feel  uncomfortable at first, it’s all right; new “clothes” often take a bit to get used to.  You can trust that as soon as you make your announcement, this expanded version of You has begun!  (Pretty exciting, really…)

Three very important steps:

1.  Make your declaration in writing (like our 1776 heroes).  Use the Proclamation below or create your own.  (Free certificates are available online).

2.  Verbalize your decision.   Read it (with feeling) to yourself in the mirror.   Reading it to a trusted friend is also very helpful.  Remember that the spoken word is very powerful, so use it to your advantage.

3.  Repeat at least 3 times each day (12-100 times is better)!

 

My Declaration Day

This is the day you declare who you are and what you want!

This___________day of ____________, 20______,

I declare that I am_______________________________________________________

 

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I declare myself worthy to experience:______________________________________

 

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Signed:_______________________________________

 

You’ve taken your leap and declared who you are!  I’m so happy for you – Joan Kappes

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Joan Kappes

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Unfolding Your Rose

We are “Come to the Edge Today” people, striving to live our lives to the fullest, answering daily invitations to grow and expand.  Because this is who we are, we look for new insights, new inspirations, new beginnings.  We are determined and resolved to make changes.  Like you, I have expanded visions and dreams for my life.  Mindful of these dreams, I began reading and journaling; I’d like to share with you some of the insights I uncovered.  As the words began to flow onto the page, I could feel the resonance of them flowing from deep within.  I share them with the hope that you will find their meaning too.

Reflections:  Unfolding My Rose

It began with these quotes from “The Dance” by Oria Mountain Dreamer:

“What if your contribution to the world and the fulfillment of your own happiness is not dependent upon discovering a better method of prayer or technique of meditation, not dependent upon reading the right book or attending the right seminar, but upon really seeing and deeply appreciating yourself and the world as they are right now?”

“What if the task is simply to unfold, to become who you already are in your essential nature – gentle, compassionate, and capable of living fully and passionately present?”

“What if the question is not why am I so infrequently the person I really want to be, but why do I so infrequently want to be the person I really am?”

“What if becoming who and what we truly are happens not through striving and trying but by recognizing and receiving the people and places and practices that offer us the warmth of encouragement we need to unfold?”

These quotes “wowed” me with their truth.  And then I read this:

“Because you have no faith that who you are is enough”.

I was thrown off my chair with the truth and depth of this simple sentence.  “Because you have no faith that who you are is enough”.  Take some time to consider this!  Isn’t this at the core of how we live so much of our lives?  We do, relate, buy, prove, disprove, etc. etc. because deep down, we think there is something missing, something lacking in who we are.  We see ourselves as broken.  We think we are not enough.

What if nothing is broken?  What if our lives are part of the grand Whole and living is an opportunity for unfolding the gift that is already present?

This revelation that I am “enough” is a lifelong unfolding process – unfolding layer upon layer of the Wholeness that is already “me”.  It is like unfolding the pedals of a Rose.

“Now” is my opportunity for learning and allowing “me” to come forth.  It’s not about ‘becoming’ anything – it’s about the discovery of ‘being’.  There is nothing to overcome or to mend.  There is only revealing and unfolding of the me that ‘is’.  There is nothing to improve.  There is only unfolding.

My life, my world then, becomes a treasure chest to explore rather than something broken to be fixed.  And, if nothing is broken in me, then nothing is broken in you either.  My relationship with you and everyone in my world is about the unfolding of seeing you as you really are too. 

There is nothing to improve.  There is only unfolding.

Let us “Come to the Edge TODAY” with the intention to experience and ‘know’ that “Who I am is enough”.

Today’s “leaping” exercise:  Spend minutes, hours, days considering the following questions.  Ponder, journal, meditate, ‘unfold’ these questions:

What does it feel like to know that ‘all I am is enough’?  What will it look like to experience the unfolding of my Rose?  How will I see and interact with you if all I see is the unfolding of your Rose?

You are a perfect Rose to be unfolded and discovered, as am I – Joan Kappes

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An Easter Message

YOU ARE WORTHY….

YOU ARE LOVED….

 

 

Happy I-am-worthy- Day! –Joan Kappes

 

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A ‘Good Friday’ Love Song

Good
Friday

A day of reflection. A day to focus. A day to ponder. A day to declare our beliefs. A day to give thanks.

Today is a good day for experiencing this Universal Truth: We are Loved. We are Loved. We are Loved!

It is a perfect day to bask in the unconditional Love pouring Itself upon us 24/7. Our perception and experience of this Love is unique resulting in an amazing storyboard we call the human experience. Such a gift.

Are we open to seeing this Love which constantly flows, so we can allow it to touch us?

This beautiful love song, “When You Say You Love Me” by Josh Grobin, is one of my favorite “spiritual” songs – a Love song between God/Source and me. This is my Good Friday gift to you. Revel in the Love that awaits you through its harmony and words. May it deepen your experience of the unconditional Love that is so freely given – to You.

 

Blessings for a GOOD Friday – Joan Kappes

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